[alyssa071]

I went out this guy I had known for about three months recently. I thought it went well, we made out (he made the first move) and we both enjoyed every minute. I called him late that night just to thank him, and he reciprocated by going like thank YOU!. I found that really sweet!

The next day he told all of his friends, I had become friends with some of them through the past couple of months, so they told me how he told all of them that we had just been out on a date and how he seemed happy about it!

But his friends gave me mixed messages about the whole idea of us dating "hez very protective of his girl" "he hasnt had a relationship since his 3 yr long rel. that ended 2 yrs ago" "im not sure if hes serious, but he could be, i dont know" "he gets lazy!.. you might have to make all your moves"

But, ever since our date, I have been finding myself making the first move to meet around and things. I thought it was okay because its how we were even before we went out on our first 'date'. But then I saw him getting lazy so I stopped calling him, He finally texted me again saying he missed me, 8 days after our date, he also told me he had been drinking then, but swore he hadn't had much. Anyway I'm not sure if that even counted.

Its been about 10 days now, and I haven't been asked out on a second date... we still talk.. but he hasn't mentioned a second date... nor have we talked about our date since I called him back that night.. Can I ask him out?. I really don't want this to end at date #ONE!

PS. We went out on a Thursday, he's been busy with term papers and assignments since then, I have exams too... So technically we're all pretty busy for another 2 weeks. Does this help his case, maybe he's just busy?

[ISneezeFunny]

Well, he could be busy, but to be honest, how long does sending a text or calling someone up take..

This guy sounds like he's a bit lazy... and likes a chase, but once it's over... he's just not interested in it. It could also be that he's not looking for another serious relationship, but just something to have fun with... which isn't a bad thing, but it could be if he doesn't communicate that with you.

I would tell you to call him up and set up a second date with him... however, if the laziness continues, you may have to come up with a new tactic.