[Evanzie18]

Ok If I Don't Use Correct Grammer Such As Full Stops Forgive Me Im Used To Doing It On Computer

Im An 18yr Old Virgin Going On 19 At First I Didn't Care About It But People I Knew Found Out An They Started Laughing Calling Me A Loser An Stuff It Got Worse From There When I Went To Work I Had People Coming Up To Me Saying Are You Still A Virgin I Said Yeah They Laughed An Said Oh My God You Need To Get A Life I Started Getting Stuff Thrown At Me Like Cans Of Coke etc I Never Told The Boss About It In case He Laughed The Ones At Work Bought Me A Blow Up Doll An Said Have Fun

I Got Invited To A Party I Thought Maybe I'll Go Take Stress Off When I Got There I Was Forced Into A Room By A Group Of People My Age Who I Thought Were Friends I Was TIed To A Chair They Put Porn On Made Me Watch It An Said Were Not Untying You Until Its Over
Look What Your Missing Out On To Bad You Won't Get None

An I Haven't Had Success With Any Girl No Matter How Nice Iam To Them I Just Fail All The Time An I Don't Want to Pay For It Cause That Makes Me Feel Worse I Don't Know What To Do Ive Thought Of Suicide A Few Times Not Much Point In Living If I Can't Find Love

I Fear When My Parents Die Il Have No One Sitting By myself With No Girl In My Life Whatsoever an being a virgin the rest of my life Ive Tried Numerous Times An Ive Failed With Girls An The Thoughts Of That Scares Me

Now Ive Turned To Drugs Such As Speed Acid E's Smoke 8 Grams Of Weed everyday sometimes mix the weed with speed

The Drugs Don't Make Me Feel Like A Loser But If I Give Them Up Il Feel Im Stuck Don't Know What To Do :(

[Moto Slug]

You are a loser if you carry on with the drugs, get rid of them for a start, that's something that will put a girlfriend off, and you are still very young so don't worry about the lack of girlfriend yet.
Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of, I wonder how many of your work mates have a STDs from sleeping around. That's something to be asahamed of.

[Thegirl123]

K its pretty messed up of those kids to make fun of you honey... but you are so young. Life is worth living no matter what. Things can be resolved.
Girls well at least the ones worth giving a chance, They should respect you for being true to yourself. No reason to have sex to prove something to anyone. Sex is a special bond... That our society has taken a on.

Girls also like confiedence.. would you want to be with someone who didn't like them self? You can do it. Think positive it may take time but just taking charge of your life and feeling good about yourself does wonders. If you are alone then everyone else is missing out. Go get a make over get some new clothes work it!!

Quit the durgs.. the drugs you got won't make you feel better pretty soon you'l lfind it's the onlylittle part of your life your keeping together.

Don't give up

[1234AAA]

You being a virgin is admirable; at least that is what normal people think.

You abusing drugs is not admirable; at least that is what normal people think.

It is no wonder you feel pulled in 2 different directions, you live at opposite ends of the spectrum, which is not easy.

As for your virginity, forget about those screwballs you work with. I agree with the above answer in that they are simply jealous because they probably all have STD’s and you don’t. Do you work with ANY normal people? I think they are doing it simply to get a rise out of you, so to speak, and obviously it works. Maybe in some way they think by you being a virgin that you somehow think you are better than them. Do you think you are better than them? Do they abuse drugs too? Do you abuse drugs with them?

As for the drugs, you really don't expect anyone here to tell you that doing drugs is okay... do you? Of course you don’t. I feel you need to work on your problem with drugs first and the rest will work itself out in time. Probably the reason why most people abuse drugs, other than a genetic factor, is low self-esteem. What is so bad about your reality that you feel you need to be numb to go through it? You need to figure that out first.

Good luck kiddo.

[Xrayman]

The "friends" should be sued. Its known as abuse-possibly sexual abuse and kidnapping if you really push it.

Quit the drugs.

Be a good friend a support for a girl or two, the girlfiends (sexually speaking ) will arrive on your scene when you change the crowd you hang around.

[Choux]

Instead of taking drugs over being bullied, learn a valuable lesson about life and go ahead, wiser. Never tell anyone your private sexual business!! That goes for your financial business, too. Most people you work with are just morons!!

Make yourself available to the opposite sex... join a club, take a night school course(very good to meet females!! ), volunteer(lots of females volunteer at hospitals, libraries, nursing homes, habitat for humanity, all kinds of organizations.

You just have to meet a higher class of females... no more druggies and mockers!

[hollylovesbrandon]

Love is not the only thing life is about, regardless of what anyone tells you. And at 18 I wouldn't expect you to have found love yet anyway. There's no need to resort to drugs just because you are young and haven't found love YET. Drugs are stupid, irresponsible, and of bad taste. No one wants to be around a drug-addict. Drugs will only lead you down a lonelier, more sorrowful road then you are on now. You won't find a woman if you don't get your head out of your and start realizing that drugs are NEVER the right answer (sorry for being harsh, but I have lost many loved ones to drugs and I hate to hear of someone else doing it to themselves).

About the women. You are only 18. Do you have any idea how much TIME you have to find a lover (unless you keep doing drugs that is)? You're not an idiot, you're not stupid, you are not a p*ssy. These people that tease you, they are bullies. They pick on you for not getting what they probably don't get. Tell your boss about them. No one deserves to be treated the way that you were. They should be punished for that.

Not all women are going to warm up to you. And just because and you're 18 and still a virgin doesn't say anything of you. I know plenty of people that are 18 and still virgins... I have friends that are 22 and still virgins. It's something to be commended for, not harassed or made to feel bad for.

You should hold your head up high with the confidence that you never gave into the teenage temptations. You should feel proud that you are one of the few men still out that that women can respect and look up to.

Here's my advice. Get off the drugs. Go to rehab if necessary. Get a DIFFERENT job. Try somewhere across town or somewhere that not a lot of people will know you. Go to counseling. Anyone that has been hazed and harassed the way you have probably has some serious psychological issues. Then, once you feel confident in YOURSELF the women will start to pick-up on that and things can start from there.

If there is one thing a woman can sense it's a man that's confident in himself.

[Fr_Chuck]

First you have a very bad group of friends, you are a lot better off without this type of people.

If your boss does not stop this behavior at work, they can be sued, because of a hostile work place.

But you using drugs because of this makes you a big loser, since you are doing the right thing, but have poor friends

[O_Troubles]

My ex was 21 and a virgin when I meet him. Also there are a lot of people out there practicing abstenence your not the worlds only virgin! Lol and don't do drug some on be smart. I wouldn't date a druggie, mabie neither would other women.. there are billions of women on this earth you will eventually meet one who likes you. Just be yourself. Trying dating site even if there just to find friends... real ones Plentyoffish.com Free Online Dating Service & Dating Site becides I think you need to grow and amture a bit before you get a girlfriend. Be more independent and don't look for a girl. You have to be OK with you as a single before you can be a succesfull couple. OK

[Alty]

The drugs have got to stop. No body wants a relationship with someone who is addicted to drugs. You are a drug addict.

As for being a virgin, that is your private business, you shouldn't have told anyone to begin with. I can't believe that they have treated you this way, you have to stand up for yourself and tell someone. Also, with friends like these, you don't need enemies. You are only 18, there's no shame in still being a virgin. There is a girl out there for you, probably more than one. Get your life together, stop the drugs and then start looking for a mate, until then, you aren't ready.

Take care.

[simoneaugie]

Somehow we learn that drugs and sex make us cool. Not so. Find a new place to work because the way you're being treated for being honest is just wrong! Putting others down to make ourselves feel better is supposed to be human nature. Not so.

Ask yourself who you really want to be. Then be that to the best of your ability. Masking how you feel with chemicals is copping out. If you are afraid of ending up alone in your old age, visit, no, volunteer at a nursing home. That will give you perspective on how you are treated in life, in general.

[asking]

Dear Evanzie,
I read at a government web site that about one-third of all 19 year old men are virgins. That's hundreds of thousands of people just like you! It's perfectly normal for many young people to wait until they find the right partner. There's no rush. It is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. They are only teasing you because they see that you are embarrassed by it. You don't need to be.

Several people here have mentioned that you should get off the drugs and I agree. The people who have been tormenting you are evil and you need to get away from them, even if it means quitting your job and finding a new one. What you are experiencing IS sexual harassment, but whether you want to make an issue of it, or just leave that job is your decision. It sounds like you are too sad right now to talk to the boss about this. I don't blame you. I would be too!

But it also sounds to me as if you are having some serious problems with depression. You need to find someone you can talk to about this, and possibly try an antidepressant for a while. Suicidal thoughts are no joke. Please see a doctor soon. I guarantee your life WILL get better. When you get away from the bad people who are tormenting you and find your true self, you will also eventually find love. Have faith! Be patient. Reach out and find some real friends (who aren't cruel). And please go see a doctor and tell the doctor that you are depressed. Do that soon.

Keep telling us how you are doing.
Take care!

[Xrayman]

Several people here have mentioned that you should get off the drugs and I agree. The people who have been tormenting you are evil and you need to get away from them, even if it means quitting your job and finding a new one. What you are experiencing IS sexual harassment, but whether you want to make an issue of it, or just leave that job is your decision. It sounds like you are too sad right now to talk to the boss about this. I don't blame you. I would be too!

Okay here's the deal-I Don't GIVE A FLYING CRAP ABOUT WHAT YOUR BOSS THINKS_IF HE OR SHE ALLOWS ABUSE__THEY CAN BE SUED!

You don't talk about these things-YOU SUE THE PANTS OFF THEM!!

If you wanted to, you could make use of the money by finding a better place to live/work/enjoy leisure time, whatever.

AND this is the key to all your problems, get off the drugs-this (even if you were not before, makes you a loser, and an addict and helps you to stick around with the rubbish people, and girls who you would not want to have sex with anyway).

Some one (O_Troubles) wrote that she "would not date a drug user" HOORAY! Someone who is a girl is telling you (consider it a free lesson)... drugs=no chicks.

Thanks simoneaugie for the kudos before-kind regards to you.

[O_Troubles]

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I'm not the prettyest or uglyest girl out there but I assure you I wouldn't date you if you were prince william because you do drugs, heck not even if you were orlando bloom and he's a hottie. Honetly tell your boss A. if he deals with it you feel better at work work more get money get a theropist deal with your sadness and virgin/lonley issues AND GET CLEAN. Or B. he laughs sue him use the money to go into rehab and get theropy and clean yourself up mabie you're a scruffy guy we can't tell you online if you have bad style. Did I mention GET CLEAN? Let us know how it goes OK.

[IneedHelp222]

If I was you id beat the crap out of your so called friends and your Douche co-workers

[Alty]

if i was you id beat the crap out of your so called friends and your Douche co-workers

That is neither helpful or appropriate. Telling someone to beat someone up is not good advice. There are better ways of handling things than getting physical. Please think before you respond. Thank you.

[Synnen]

Hey thanks but no thanks Alten. Its MY opinion on what he should do, not yours. If he doesn't like it then he wont do it. I wasn't talking to you. So please don't ever tell me to think before i speak again. THAAAAAAAAAANKKSSS!!

I'll tell you to think before you speak.

I *almost* deleted your first post, but Altenweg called you on it, so I figured you might actually learn something about helpful answers that are actually LEGAL recourses.

And I *almost* deleted your extremely rude second post (see above), but I decided to publicly make a point with it.

Rude and/or illegal solutions WILL be deleted. Consider this your fair warning that future attitude will get you nowhere, as I will just delete the post.

Now--let's please stay on topic. If you feel the need to respond to my post (and by "you", I mean "anyone") then please PM me.

[boredINmind]

I don't know why these kinds of things are such a big deal because when you're young sex isn't that pleasurable or memorable. It is something that is mature and meaningful and should only be committed by people that are old and mature enough to except the consequences: BABIES, STDs.

I understand what you are going through, girls at my high school were getting pregnant at young ages (around 13 and 14) and no one thought that was odd. So I commend you on not being young and "over-active."

As for trying to get a girlfriend, you not only have to be nice, but also confident. Girls want a guy that they can depend on to be there if they need someone to cry with, joke around, or kick some butt ;) Being a nice guy is great, but don't let anyone walk over you.

Also get away, FAR AWAY, from the jerks that you call friends. Get out sometimes and go to nearby cities to club or join hobby groups. The goal is to get out there and find new, interesting people.

ANOTHER THING TO MENTION IS: LOOK FOR PEOPLE THAT YOU HAVE COMMON INTERESTS WITH! If the snotty hot girl doesn't like you, then go talk to the regular girl sitting in the corner. You will eventually find someone that feels the same as you, you just have to give people a chance.

[IneedHelp222]

I was kidding around, no need to get all crazy about it. Sorry

[smoothy]

Losers use drugs as a crutch... illicit drugs (or alcohol) don't cure anything, they only create more problems.

Best way to deal with life is not through a drug induced haze. But with a clear head so you have the capacity to recognise what the problem is and deal with it. You can't do that when you are drunk or stoned.

As far as finding a girl... give it time. Stop obsessing over it. You have to be yourself and you will find the rigth woman for you. You can't MAKE anyone like you and not every woman is going to like you or even want you. That's how it is. Its what everyone deals with. Except for certain cultures that treat people like cattle and have arrainged marriages. ANd no you don't have a say it's the parents that decide.


Just avoid the losers that are into drugs... they aren't going far in life. When you are sober and straight then you can start on the rest.