[Romefalls19]

Ok guys... I figured this would be a different type of post than I am accustomed to posting... So I am having a debate with a co-worker about something, so please help settle it.

The debate is that talking exclusively and being in a relationship ARE two DIFFERENT things. Talking exclusively meaning that you are just interested in each other but are getting to know each other before jumping into a relationship while being in a relationship comes after this step. Or is talking exclusively and being in a relationship one in the same?


Another side question. Is asking someone to be exclusively talking something that should be discussed in person or something inpersonal like via text message, myspace, Facebook... etc?

[O_Troubles]

Talking is just that , your not dating nuthing is implyed its just testing the water seeing if the other person is compatible. I don't quite get what u mean by talking exclusivly like flirting?

[Romefalls19]

Basically talking exclusively means you are not out looking for other people of interests...

[O_Troubles]

So u stop looking on the dating sites and talk to one person..

[Romefalls19]

Yes, like if you decide you find someone that you feel a connection with but aren't quite at the point of relationship. You decide to go exclusively talking with that person(mutually agreed upon of course) Its sort of the same thing as the "going steady" aspect, I think(wasn't around back then)

[O_Troubles]

OK back in the day that was like courting lol. No its still just talking . You can talk for months but your still not in a relationship your just considering it. Also I think if you meet some one and you want to ask them to mabie give up there love search and talk to you for a while and see how it goes I don't see a problem doing in an e-mail or text or in person something like Facebook may be a little too impersonal but depending on the person and your relation ship to them like how you meet what you've talked about so far you have different options

[Romefalls19]

Well this is dealing with someone you see on a daily basis... It's not a long distance thing or meeting through a dating site. It's someone you see at work and such

[O_Troubles]

Then in person

[Romefalls19]

Thank you! I thought so ha ha

[O_Troubles]

Lol well being the only one on your thread I can say your welcome but mabie make other people write what they think to because I suck at this site and that's hard haha

[talaniman]

Tal's Guidelines to better Loving!

1) Meeting someone of interest
2) A few dates
Having a good time, seeing if the interest is there. Getting to know each other. No strings attached at all.
3) After 6 months, a mutual dating agreement
This is where you both make the choice, to just see each other, and have a relationship. Still getting to know each other on a more intimate level. Still having fun.
4) After a year, serious talking
This is when you know and trust each other, and are thinking a little more long range.
5) After a year and a half, to two years, you should know where this is headed, and either make plans or disappear. Whatever problems you have should at least be minimal, and you both should know if you work well together or not. The level of honest communication is very high, and clear, as you speak the language, and trust each other.

In general, if you rush thru, or skip any of these steps, things will fall apart.
If you are not honest thru this process, things will fall apart
If there is lying, and cheating, things will fall apart.

If you follow this process, and are honest and upfront, you will have a very good chance to work together, and build a life you both enjoy, and make a bunch of babies, and grow old together, happily.

Does this answer your question?