[sekhar08]

Hello,
This is regarding my unfaithful wife.She is very beautiful. We are married for 8yrs with a 7 yrs old son. She is having an affair with her colleague (both are art teachers) and she has admitted that they have frequent sex. She says that the man has satisfied her both mentally and physically. She says that she has never enjoyed sex with me and always have ignored her wishes and dreams. She says that it was a mistake that she had married me and would have married this man if she had met him earlier as they share lots of things common. She wants to divorce me and settle with this man with the joint custody of our son. Last week when she told me about this relationship,I was stunned but I immediately told her that I love her very much and can't leave her. She told me that is not possible as both of them love each other very much. She talks to me rudely whenever I ask her not to leave me ridicules me . Myself & other members of my family know every thing but are ready to accept her back. On being pressurised by her family ,she has agreed to stay with me on four occasions but every time she has become restless and contacted that person again. The last occasion she has agreed to stay with me on the condition that she will not forget that man and also she will not touch let me touch her but since then she is always crying and remains indifferent even to my son.who ha sbecome very depressed. When I try to console her she just ridicules me and compares me with that man. I do not want to lose her as I love her very much and can't live without her. From the beginning she was outgoing and I was little introvert type. I used to give her full liberty thinking she would be happy. But she has breached my trust every time. Even then I can't leave her as she is very dear to me. Please help me

[N0help4u]

Why do you want to stay and put up with the abuse? She will never treat you right and it will only get worse because the more you try to hold on to her the more resentful and abusive she will get. You can't MAKE anybody love you. You are going to have to accept the fact that you already lost her. You are only going to be miserable clinging on to her when she is only going through the motions of staying with you.

[talaniman]

Please help me

Help yourself and cut her loose. Everyone will be happier, when this chapter of your life is over.