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    N0help4u Posts: 19,823, Reputation: 2035
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    #21

    Apr 13, 2008, 12:51 PM
    You know he is bad for you. You know you NEED to do no contact so WHY is it soooooo
    Important to you that he miss you? If you are not seeing him what does it matter how much or how often he does or does not think of you?
    If you can't get over him thinking of you then you either have an obsession or you are very codependent on what others think.
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    Apr 13, 2008, 01:16 PM
    Hi. Thanks for your support. I didn't read the posts until right now because I didn't realize I had to turn the page!
    The reason I am so upset is because I am worried about myself. If it's not this guy, it'll be another one just like him. I have REALLY poor instincts when it comes to relationships. I just get so attached and love someone blindly. That's what worries me. And I pour my whole self into them and helping them, thinking they will do the same thing back and they don't.
    I was in a total fantasy about my future with this guy, which was fostered by his lies.
    I hate breaking up. It makes me so lonely.
    He actually just called and left a message. I haven't responded. Proud of me?
    I got upset about taliman's comment because telling me I'm screwed up is obvious and hurts even more. I'm too sensitive for that. The intention behind it may have been good, but it came out bad.
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    #23

    Apr 13, 2008, 01:21 PM
    Then your concern should not be what he thinks but rather what can you do different.
    You need to get on with your life and be more careful about who you trust.
    I have the same problem when I am with a guy I tell them everything and they make up in their head how they think I am anyway. I have learned that it is not good to poor your heart out. When you do too much for a guy they think they can get over on you easier so it is better to just treat them like you aren't all that interested.
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    Apr 13, 2008, 01:26 PM
    You didn't say how good it is I didn't call him back!
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    Apr 13, 2008, 02:02 PM
    It is very good. You need to keep up the good work!

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