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glennsean1072 · Apr 6, 2008, 08:35 AM

My Partner is soon to be divorced and we plan on getting married shortly afterwards.
I have not married before and it would be a dream come through for me if it was possible to get married in the church can anyone tell me if my dream is possible.

Credendovidis · Apr 6, 2008, 09:14 AM

Originally Posted by glennsean1072

can anyone tell me if my dream is possible.

Where have I heard that before?. Let's hope you are right on that!
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Why would that not be possible?
Mainly the Roman Catholic church has reservation on remarrying of it's members.
Without you telling us to which denominations you two belong, it is difficult to reply to this properly!
But there will always be a church where you can marry each other...
WHERE (in which town) do you intend to marry each other?
;)

N0help4u · Apr 6, 2008, 09:20 AM

I am sure you can find a church. Many churches marry a divorced person or people that do not attend or belong to a church, but some churches will not marry you if you are divorced or if you are not a member.

George_1950 · Apr 6, 2008, 10:09 AM

Originally Posted by glennsean1072

My Partner is soon to be divorced and we plan on getting married shortly afterwards.
I have not married before and it would be a dream come through for me if it was possible to get married in the church can anyone tell me if my dream is possible.

Why not explore being a member of a church?

PrisonerC33 · Apr 6, 2008, 10:14 AM

I've regularly attended Wesleyan, Reformed Presbyterian, Baptist, United, and Anglican churches in the past and they all would perform marriages of divorced persons. Actually, at two of my churches, the pastors had been previously divorced. Good luck and congratulations. :)

George_1950 · Apr 6, 2008, 10:24 AM

Originally Posted by PrisonerC33

I've regularly attended Wesleyan, Reformed Presbyterian, Baptist, United, and Anglican churches in the past and they all would perform marriages of divorced persons. Actually, at two of my churches, the pastors had been previously divorced. Good luck and congratulations. :)

I would feel unfortable in a church without sinners.

PrisonerC33 · Apr 6, 2008, 10:28 AM

Originally Posted by George_1950

I would feel unfortable in a church without sinners.

There is no such thing as a church without sinners. We live in a world of sinners.

Fr_Chuck · Apr 6, 2008, 10:43 AM

There are a few churches that may require either you or your partner to be members ( and I would assume you would know the church rules if you were members, normally the MO Synd Lutheran require one of the two people to be married to be a member, As does the Catholic Church.
There are many rules on a divorce person getting married in the catholic church and normally they will not.
But most churches will. Some court clerks keep a list of ministers that will be glad to marry anyone, But in general you can look at the Methodist chuches, and most of the Anglican churches as always good bets

glennsean1072 · Apr 6, 2008, 01:35 PM

Originally Posted by Credendovidis

Where have I heard that before ? .... Let's hope you are right on that!
.
Why would that not be possible?
Mainly the Roman Catholic church has reservation on remarrying of it's members.
Without you telling us to which denominations you two belong, it is difficult to reply to this properly!
But there will always be a church where you can marry each other ....
WHERE (in which town) do you intend to marry each other?
;)

We are both Roman Catholic and from Ireland.:)

glennsean1072 · Apr 6, 2008, 01:42 PM

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

There are a few churches that may require either you or your partner to be members ( and I would assume you would know the church rules if you were members, normally the MO Synd Lutheran require one of the two people to be married to be a member, As does the Catholic Church.
There are many rules on a divorce person getting married in the catholic church and normally they will not.
But most churches will. Some court clerks keep a list of ministers that will be glad to marry anyone, But in general you can look at the Methodist chuches, and most of the Anglican churches as always good bets

We are both Roman Catholic. Where will I find out the rules? :)

glennsean1072 · Apr 6, 2008, 01:57 PM

Originally Posted by Credendovidis

Where have I heard that before ? .... Let's hope you are right on that!
.
Why would that not be possible?
Mainly the Roman Catholic church has reservation on remarrying of it's members.
Without you telling us to which denominations you two belong, it is difficult to reply to this properly!
But there will always be a church where you can marry each other ....
WHERE (in which town) do you intend to marry each other?
;)

That's the problem, we are both Roman Catholic from Ireland my Local Church is where I was Baptisted made my Communion and was Confirmed and would be made up if I could Marry there.:)

donf · Apr 7, 2008, 10:47 AM

Glen & Sean,

Sure it's a fine day in Mother Ireland, is it not?

The Catholic Church has for as long as I have loved her has had a process called Annulment. You can go to just about any Catholic web site and search for Annulment. Being that Ireland has recently allowed divorces, information may not be as readily available as it is here in the USA.

Try this site, American Catholic - A Roman Catholic Church site from the Franciscans and study on from there.

In General, the annulment process is started at the Parish Priest level, Your guy, get to ask the priest to begin the process for him. The Priest then should provide him with a large packet of questions to be filled out by him and members close to him during the time leading up to the marriage and during the time of the original marriage.

These will be extremely personal questions and some be really make him want to chuck it all in, but trust me, these questions are really necessary.

At some point he will be appointed an Advocate, he should accept the Advocates help. He Advocate is a person approved by the Church to be well versed in Canon Law with respect to Annulments.

Eventually, the pile of paperwork will be received at the Bishops Diocese Center, where it will be handed over to the Marriage Tribunal.

The focus of the Tribunal is on the Sacrament Of Matrimonial and whether both parties went into the marriage in harmony with the sacrament.

If the Church can find no reason why the sacrament can be vacated, they then focus on the time of the marriage to find the break that renders the sacrament null and void.

I can not stress hard enough the focus is on the Sacrament of Marriage and not on the Civil aspects. Children of the previous marriage are not considered to be bastards if the marriage had never occurred. The process is time consuming and very introspective and Annulments are granted in more case than not over here.
I served as a lady's advocate far enough into the process where it became necessary for experience in Canon Law which I do not have.

One last note, the Church still does not like or cosider living together as man and wife without the benefit of marriage to be any thing other that sin. I'm just giving you fair waring about that.

Fr_Chuck · Apr 7, 2008, 11:01 AM

This will be the problem with both being catholic

Here is a page with a entire list of independent catholic churches, I don't know who has anyone in Ireland, our group has a couple in England but no one in Ireland.Independent Catholic Churches - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

You can discuss with your bishop an annulment for the soon to be divorced, there are some rules that allow it, but often it amy depend on your local Bishops opinion.