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Questions2007 · Apr 4, 2008, 12:20 AM

You'll be glad you kept it that way.:)[/QUOTE]

I am glad I am sticking to it. Just occasionally, like a lot of people, I have the weakness moments. With the recent events they seem to be more frequent and stronger than they have been for a long while! This forum helps so much though. It is the like the dumpees equivalent of an AA meeting!! If I feel like I need to contact her I come on here to rationally be told I shouldn't! :)

ihatewestseneca · Apr 4, 2008, 01:32 AM

I haven't read all the responses and maybe you already decided to stick to NC... but I'm telling you, if you contact her it will open up a big can of worms... you'll be confused/sad for a least a couple days, guaranteed.

After meeting with my ex a few weeks ago, it stirred up all sorts of feelings and I was miserable for a couple days. Let it go man, 8 months is a long time... and there's no reason to send her a text out of the blue. I've almost forgotten my ex's number (trying to).

Stick with NC, NC is for life, until they contact you... then you can decide what to do with it.

Allheart · Apr 4, 2008, 01:35 AM

Any scar tissue that has started to cover some of those wounds, may be ripped away,
Exposing your hurt all over again.

I wish so much it could be different for you, but you just take today for today. Who knows what tomorrow will bring, but you want to be okay tomorrow to great whatever does come your way.

Questions2007 · Apr 4, 2008, 02:05 AM

You'll be glad you kept it that way.:)[/QUOTE]

Why do you think that is the case Tal?

On another note, it occurred to me that via Facebook, she could probably be looking at my profile. Whether she has or not is not the question, but I feel she shouldn't, so I have blocked her ability to see me. (She wasn't on my friends list anyway). It just stops her snooping on me if she decides too!

ihatewestseneca · Apr 4, 2008, 02:19 AM

It shouldn't matter whether she looks at it, why do you care? Will she see something that will make her not want to be with you... oh wait, she isn't with you anyway. The reason is irrelevant. I don't even use Facebook anymore, there's just no reason too. It's a dumb site anyway, I never blocked my ex from anything because I honestly don't care if she sees anything/how she feels about it.

talaniman · Apr 4, 2008, 05:30 AM

You'll be glad you kept it that way

Because every small victory you have, over temptation and impulse, will not only teach you something, but will add to your confidence, and character also. Not only will you learn to love yourself, therefore be able to love others, you will know yourself, and stand for yourself, and your good healthy life. The good part of all this, you won't just fall for anything, that goes against what you feel, is you. These lessons now will serve you better than all the money in the world.

Questions2007 · Apr 4, 2008, 06:03 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Because every small victory you have, over temptation and impulse, will not only teach you something, but will add to your confidence, and character also. Not only will you learn to love yourself, therefore be able to love others, you will know yourself, and stand for yourself, and your good healthy life. The good part of all this, you wont just fall for anything, that goes against what you feel, is you. These lessons now will serve you better than all the money in the world.

That is so true. It is also weird how theses feelings pass quite quickly, yet also creep up on you! This morning/yesterday this was something very much on my mind. I am thinking now, what was I even debating! Why would I contact someone who has basically manipulated me and used me for her own ends!