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sleepinbeauty · Apr 3, 2008, 10:18 PM

Okay.. I was in a relationship for 2 years. In October my boyfriend broke up with me for the girl he had been cheating on me with for two years!! Since then he would call me & tell me how he and I have this comfort zone and how only I understand him. He would often leave me voicemails telling me sweet things even though he had his new girlfriend. A couple of weeks ago I confronted the girlfriend about him leaving me messages. This however ended their relationship and now he hates me. Yesturday she called me asking for help with her relationship with him since I know him better than anyone.. I think she and him are both crazy.. howw do I get both of them out of my life.. I haven't healed from the break up and I don't need this its crazy

simoneaugie · Apr 3, 2008, 10:26 PM

Tell them both that you do not want to be part of their lives, at all. "Please do not contact me."

Block them from your phone and do whatever else you need to to be free to heal from the break-up and get on with your own life.

You sound like a wonderful friend and confidante. They do not need to be causing you more pain. It's hard, but shut them out.

kp2171 · Apr 3, 2008, 10:32 PM

If he persists you might need to change your number.

I know... it's a pain in the arse...

My wife had a psycho ex-bf when I met her and she had to change phone numbers twice to get that idiot out of her life. It wasn't convenient, but it eventually worked.

Seriously... please consider this.

Leave them to their own misery.

HistorianChick · Apr 4, 2008, 08:54 AM

From personal experience with a crazy, stalker ex you're going to have to take charge of the situation if you truly want to be rid of him. I had to change my cell number and provider, close down email accounts, and open new messengers. In my case, it went so far as me having to file a police report and tell him “do not contact me ever again or I will press charges.”

Sweetie, if you truly want him out of your life, you MUST tell him to stop contacting you. After you tell him and he doesn't, then you take it to the next step – change your phone number. After that? Well, you'll have to decide if it warrants further action.

This is serious enough for you to be psychologically affected – you must protect yourself and take your power back.

Don't attempt contact because that will send mixed signals. If you're serious... then you will know what you have to do.

Don't let him control you, don't let him affect you, simply decide to get him out of your life... and do it.

I wish you the best, sweetie.

sassyT · Apr 4, 2008, 09:04 AM

Sleeping, move on with your life. This guy sound like a real jerk off. Change your phone number and don't open your door for neither one of them. It works I have done it myself and it helps you move one with your life to open up a door for someone else in your life. There is no need for you get involved in your ex's phyco drama. Your ex shouldn't even be mad at you because you are not the one who told him to call you and leave you sweet messages. If that other girl has a brain she should run with her life too. She has a lot of nerve asking you for advice while she is the one who took your man in the first place. That just sound like jerry springer drama you don't need to be a part of. Change your number, move on and your will heal much quicker that way.:)

N0help4u · Apr 5, 2008, 09:21 AM

OKAY (LOVE YOUR altvar quote :D!)
I would say two crazys deserve each other and as I have told both of my ex's new wives through the years. "IF you can put up with him more power to you!'
So play matchmaker/cupid and get them back together. Then when he calls you tell him he is messed up trying to cheat on his girlfriend and you aren't going to be played so quit calling you---- AT ALL!