[sadblue]

I am 16 years old and I used to go out with a 20 year old that I call teddy we were together for 8 months and before we even got together we were friends for a year and I started having feelings for him but he had been having feelings for me way when we had just met. So then later we started going out and I had told my mom sm secrets and then later she butt in our relationship. She later starting talking about him and she called the cops on him and would do sm other crazy . I know she cares for me but she's going nuts now lol. Then later I had broke up with him b3cause I started skippin and I didn't want my mom to blame him later. So now we decided to meet sm new people and I went to the club like a month ago and I started going out with this guy and he looked like he was 18 but it turned out he was 20. And now the problem is I still have feelings for teddy and he does too and we still make out but I feel like a hoe because teddy doesn't want to get with me anytime soon because of my mom but then the guy I just met likes me and I want to give him a chance what should I do??

[COOKIE MONSTER]

You don't no what you want at the moment but your mum has the right idea you should finish school and then start your dating or making out or what ever you want to call it.

Do you no if you have sex with a 20year old he can get done for rape depending on the law were you are,he could get in some serious trouble like
- having sex with aminor,even if you gave consent he can still get in trouble

Finish school I wish I had but I made sum stupid mistakes just like you are now,boys are not important right now your schoolin is,you need your grades to be good and graduate you need them to get agood job,skipping school to be with your boyfriend won't give you good grades and then were will you be with out graduating? In arubbish job that hardly pays any money all because you skipped school to be with some fella that you probably won't be with in ayear or 2.dont chuck your life away for aboyfriend

If he wants you that much and his feelings are as you said they are then he will wait for you if he won't then he's not worth it

[duck22]

First off, you shouldn't be skipping classes to be with this guy. Second, this guy is 20 y/o and I am sure he doesn't have the purest of intentions. I don't know the laws in your state but many states this could be considered statuary rape.

Listen to your mom, loose both guys, and focus on your schoolwork. If you want to date, find a good guy your age. When your older you will understand.

[N0help4u]

If you can't 'decide' then maybe it is telling you that neither one is right for you.

[JBeaucaire]

Your message clearly shows that even YOU don't have a grasp on what want to do, much less what you need to do.

You need to stop being so "all or nothing" in your thinking. You can "like" guys without making them the center of your universe. You can see a guy without making him into a "boyfriend" and getting your family all up in arms. (BTW, that's their job. You're right... they love you and are worried FOR you, so you have to forgive them and appreciate the effort they're making on your behalf.)

And since there is ANOTHER 20yr old guy on the table now, you need to stop frequenting places that put you ( a 16 yr old ) into the target sights of 20 year olds.

Clubbing, at 16? You feel like a "ho" because you're acting like one. And don't get all defensive and accuse us of calling you a "ho", I'm just responding to YOU. You already know you're acting sleazy, and I detect you want to have a better situation, even in your own mind. OK, then I will talk straight to you and expect you to understand my point.

Listen to your parents, "friendship" with 20yr olds is dangerous (and exciting, I know I know... give me a break!), so you're going to have to put up with all your loved ones and friends properly freaking out FOR your since you're too busy having fun to stop yourself. It's good to have someone doing it, if you won't.