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srulik86 · Mar 30, 2008, 11:34 AM

OK so last Monday after my ex girlfriend messing with my head time and time again I said I had had enough and wanted to know where I stood. She failed to give me an answer on msn or replying to my message and completley ignored me on msn, so I sent her another message saying that's it I've had enough and I'm done with her nonsense. I then blocked her on Facebook and msn and she soon enough text me saying how mad at herself she is that she doenst know what she wants. She then went on to say how she's never met anyone so nice and caring as me, she isn't over me, will get jealous when it comes to me and other girls, but can't see it working long term even though she said shed be happy to come back to college in a couple of weeks and date me for a bit but wudnt think it to be fair if she did that. It pretty much ended with me saying lets go our separate ways then, but I promise that I won't make it awkard for her when she comes back to college. I haven't heard from her since and will see her at college in 3 weeks time. I would do anything to get back together with her, I just don't know what to do now. I was thinking of leaving it for another 3 weeks, no contact, see how things are when I get back, but how do I behave around her. Then 3 weeks later than that I finsih college for good. So I kind of wanted to let her miss me (I hope), see what life without me will be like when I leave college, and then if we've made no progress I was going to post her a letter saying everything how I feel, and goodbye and everything on my last day. I had a dream last night that she was seeing someone else and I woke up heartbroken, I wanted to get in contact today but I managed to hold back from doing so. What does everyone else think. The thing is if she had no feelings for me I would accept it and move on, but we've been on and off the last 6 months and she so clearly still has feelings for me and when we get 2gther we always have such a great time. I just think she needs to wake up and realise! Any advice would be great. Thanks.

Marriedguy · Mar 30, 2008, 03:30 PM

What you should now? Well short answer is you do nothing.

According to your post you have been in a rocky relationship for the past 6 months and then two broke up. In my opinion this was for the better, the relationship was staggering along with the hopes to get better.

There were good times and bad times in this relationship. This is probably the source of your ex's confusion.

I know you have some strong feelings for her but the relationship was not really a good one, so why would you try to restart a relationship.

Fallback! Regroup with yourself, heal up and choose another target.

nickshehe · Mar 30, 2008, 07:33 PM

For starters, I think the mere fact that you have all of these "strategies" of planning ahead is a sure sign that you will be miserable for at least the 3 weeks you will wait until the final stage of your planning, and then add on however long it could possibly take for you to get over her completely.
That doesn't sound like a very positive future to look forward too.
What you need to do is put it in your head that it's over.. Put it in your head that she may never call you or want to see you again, and move on with your life. If ever she decides to return then you can worry about what to do.
But I agree with Marriedguy in that if you've only been together for 6 months and it's been rocky anyway - and she's been putting you through this drama, then it can't be healthy.
And even though it may not seem like it now, it isn't worth your time or emotional effort.
Find someone who is honest with you and who will care for you too much to put you through this roller coaster of emotions.
I'm sure you can convince yourself that you can do a lot better than her.

talaniman · Mar 30, 2008, 07:50 PM

Leave her alone, and start to have a good time with others.

I just think she needs to wake up and realise!

Or its you who needs a wake up.

srulik86 · Mar 31, 2008, 01:36 AM

Cheers guys your write, I do have 2 very important weeks coming up so that should distract me. And you guys are right. Its just incredibly hard but I think the bets advice is to actually tell meself its over and to accept that! And I will find someone better who will treat me better, its comforting to know that she knows how much she fuct me around and its not all in my head. Time to move on!

nickshehe · Mar 31, 2008, 04:53 AM

It shouldn't matter whether she knows or not.. and it should make no difference to you..
But whatever the case whenever you feel the temptation to pick up the phone and call her or contact her in any way, just remember that a person who cares about you wouldn't put you through something like this.