[anthony86]

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over two years and over 4 months and she wants to take a break. This is will be the second break of own relationship. This time she doesn't know why she is breaking up with me. But some of her friends are partying and drinking people and I'm not down with that. She on the other is and wants a break I guess to party with her friends. She said I love you and I want to marry you in the future but I don't know what I want. We see each other daily and now its to a point where I think she is using me. The first beak with her we were broken up for two days and she came by my college and saw me. I thought we were taking a break but I guess not. She made out with me even though we were on a break. Also I was out with my brother and his girlfriend and a girl that my brother and his girlfriend knew sat down beside me. She start talking to me and then my girlfriend called. I told her the truth and the girl who was sitting beside me. My girlfriend then threw up when she got home and called me over later that night. When I got there she had been crying I could tell. When I went in her house she told me that she didn't want me to be happy with another girl just her. I'm confused. I want her to be happy and I thought she wanted to move on but why is she doing this to me after all that I've done. Why is she breaking me into when I thought she cared? Also I would like to note that she told some of her friends and me that she gets mad at me over nothing and that is the truth lately. She has been. Some days she is loving and other days she seem like she is so hating me when I'm doing nothing wrong. What is wrong with this picture? Please give me some advice somebody.

[Farmerjohn692000]

Don't know what to tell you. But I do know if your in college then there is more then likely a lot more women there and you have the pick. Play the field and I'm sure you'll find someone who is able to make up there mind about what they want instead of playing the high school breakup drama game. Give your chic the choice, if she wants to be with you then fine, if not go party with her friends and leave you be. Good luck

[talaniman]

Some days she is loving and other days she seem like she is so hating me when I'm doing nothing wrong. What is wrong with this picture?

Pretty confusing I know, but not that unusual given your youth. She is changing and wants to see more of life and find out where she fits in. That simple. For your part, she wants a break, to explore, and you should give it to her. All good things come to an end and accepting she is going in another direction at this time, will allow you to move on with your own life, and allow you to build your own happiness, without her. Everyone goes through these break ups, and we have to learn to cope with our losses as best we can, while moving on. She is confused, and learning, and to avoid confusion on your part you stop contacting her and don't accept contact from her, as she may want to be friends, but until your over her, this only feeds you false hope, and makes the break a true torture for you. Cruel as it may seem, No Contact will help you get to a stable place in your life and let the emotional dust settle , so you can see things in a realistic way and make better decisions for yourself. Not easy to do, but so necessary. Click on the links in my signature and read the 4 "stickies", to give you insights, and information, to help you move on. Let me know if any apply to you, and know that you are not alone, when it comes to losing a love. Every one here has been there, and some of us a lot. We learn to move one and be happy. So will you. Good Luck, and feel free to ask questions.