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Romefalls19 · Mar 26, 2008, 06:36 AM

I was with my ex for 2 and a half years. And she ended it out of blue as well, but looking back of course you see warning signs. Tal said it correctly, those happy times you had are over. The past is the past my friend, go out have fun enjoy life. It may seem hard to imagine, but life does go on and you will feel so much better with not contacting her.

Look at some of my older posts, I was just like you with how things went down. But I created a GREAT support line on this forum because there are people going through the same thing and people who have went through it. The people on here are NOT going to tell you what you want to hear, they tell you what you NEED to hear. There will not come a time when you are to call her. If she wants to talk, believe me she will call you. Until then, just go on about your life without her

miller3 · Mar 26, 2008, 07:09 AM

Well, I met her last Monday for a hour to talk and she seemed upset and mad about the situation, but she was kissing me and hugging me and telling me she loves me, and she still did not bring my belongings like she said she would 3 weeks ago. If you ask me she is for some reason forcing herself to be done with me. Deep inside she wants to be with me it seems from her actions but what is stopping her. That is why I am giving her time to think, she is confuesed and if she was not confused she would have brought me my stuff, so now down the road I would need to see her to get it all back. So the door is still open. She not only has the ring but all kinds of things of mine that I need back. What is oing on?? It seems she keeps saying mean things to me to hurt me and really does not mean them??

miller3 · Mar 26, 2008, 07:13 AM

Why is she not giving my stuff back like she said she was?? Because she is confussed? And it gives her a reason to see me down the road??

Romefalls19 · Mar 26, 2008, 07:16 AM

No, she is playing you for a fool. It's classic head games, she is keeping you around until something else comes along. After she finds someone new you will be cast aside even farther. The stuff she has of yours, consider it a free lesson on growing up on never leave stuff of yours that you will need back. I also gave my ex a ring along with countless amounts of jewelry and such, I don't want it back even if she offered it to me. It's not worth the pain, just write it off my good man. Like my cousin told me after this all happened, never give a girla ring until the day you say "I Do"

How old are you guys?

miller3 · Mar 26, 2008, 07:25 AM

I am 27 and she is 25. I do not understand how she is keeping me around. She does somewhat respond back when I contact her but its all remorse. She actually lives close to you in allentown, pa It like she is confussed like I said and by keeping my stuff is a reason for her to communicate with me.

miller3 · Mar 26, 2008, 07:27 AM

She said she is going to give the stuff back and her dad which I am very close to said he will make sure she does not keep my things.

Romefalls19 · Mar 26, 2008, 07:34 AM

Now we are at the point where you need to demand the stuff back... I was lucky enough to get the majority of my "things" back. Which I didn't really even want, like the clothes she borrowed and everything. Looking back it was really funny because when she handed me the boxes of stuff I put them next to the trash and she asked me "Why are you putting them there" I politely said "I don't keep things that remind me of betrayel and pain." When she came over I had taken everything off the walls, all the pictures she painted and then also little notes she left on my wall had been taken down. So when she walked in she said "wow, you wasted no time in removing me" and I said "You ended it with me, I didn't ask for this so I just don't want to be reminded of you all the time" and even on that day, she asked me for a kiss. So I know what you're going through

miller3 · Mar 26, 2008, 07:42 AM

Wow, her dad said the same thing to demand my stuff back. I hear what you are saying but I am trying to see and act on her part, meaning I understand what she is going through and I know her enough to know she is not playing games. It seems she does not want it to end but is being either forced to or does not see things with us getting better. Also we are not talking about stick figure drawings, she has the ring, brand new shoes, leather jacket, suites... and the list goes on. But that's a good one on your part! I think she is waiting to see what happens in the next coming weeks to see if she feels different and to see is without me is what she wants. If I keep bothering her she will never see how it feels to have no communication at all and that takes time maybe more then I think being the state of mind she is in at this point.

talaniman · Mar 26, 2008, 09:42 AM

I honestly hope you can put aside your concern for her feelings, and motives, and concentrate on what it is you must do, and that is to move forward with your life, and let her do the same. She may be confused, but I seriously doubt she will change her mind.

miller3 · Apr 29, 2008, 11:04 AM

My girlfriend broke up with me after 2 years and being engaged for 5 months. We have been broken up for 2 months today. We talk sometimes and e-mail each other. In the past until this week she was mean to me blaming me for the break up writing it to me in the e-mails and telling me on the phone, that I was mean and treated her bad. Now she is acting weird, wantng to buy me a book to help with my hurting because she is reading it and its helping her get over me. I asked her why does she care and she says she is not sure if she loves me but still cares about me. Just 2 weeks ago she said she loved me and now she does not know? I don't understand? I asked her if we could see each other and she said she does not know and said she had to go and she waould call me. What is going on here, is it that she still is very confused or what?

miller3 · Apr 29, 2008, 11:34 AM

My girlfriend broke up with me after 2 years and being engaged for 5 months. We have been broken up for 2 months today. We talk sometimes and e-mail each other. In the past until this week she was mean to me blaming me for the break up writing it to me in the e-mails and telling me on the phone, that I was mean and treated her bad. Now she is acting weird, wantng to buy me a book to help with my hurting because she is reading it and its helping her get over me. I asked her why does she care and she says she is not sure if she loves me but still cares about me. Just 2 weeks ago she said she loved me and now she does not know? I don't understand? I asked her if we could see each other and she said she does not know and said she had to go and she waould call me. What is going on here, is it that she still is very confused or what?

blackmage · Apr 29, 2008, 12:05 PM

She moved on dude I'm going threw the same girls don't know what they want for real

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Apr 29, 2008, 12:08 PM

NO, it's guys who don't know what they want!

:)

Romefalls19 · Apr 29, 2008, 12:14 PM

Both sexes don't know what they want lol... problem solved... NEXT!

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bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Apr 29, 2008, 12:26 PM

And the account number..

Hey, I know what I want! I don't want to be accounted for all those men and women who don't know what they want.

Romefalls19 · Apr 29, 2008, 12:28 PM

Now, Beautiful, you are on a totally different level than those individuals... You're boyfriend is a lucky guy.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Apr 29, 2008, 01:12 PM

Awww how sweet. Thanks Romey!

miller3 · Apr 29, 2008, 01:23 PM

I do not know what to do, after us being broken up for 2 months, then she starts to e-mail me and being nice and then wants to help me by buying a book to help with hurting after she broke it off. She said she is readinf it and it helps her. I asked if she loved me and she said she does no know, she said people change. I said why are you worried about me then and she said she still cares for me. She talked to me on sat and said she will call me. So I am playing the waiting game to see when she calls, or if she calls. It seems to me she is forcing her self to get over me. She seems very confused on what to do and I thing she is looking for answers from her friends and family and they say he is not for you and then you got me trying to get her back.

COOKIE MONSTER · Apr 29, 2008, 03:24 PM

Hun she broke up with you and is trying to get over you. Respect her and ignore her.I think she just playing with your head and heart.just move on,close the door on that part of your life, email her and tell her not to reply or send you any more emails or calls,it's the best thing for you honestly and start afresh

You don't need her playing games with your heart and mind

COOKIE MONSTER · Apr 29, 2008, 03:34 PM

Forget her it sounds like she's messing with your head. Ignore her start no contact an move on.

You don't need her messing with your head