[red grasshopper12]

What happens if your son hates their father? Could you help me figure this out?

[COOKIE MONSTER]

We need more info than that hun

Do you no why?
Did he do or say something wrong?
How old is he?[your son]
When did everything start going bad?

[red grasshopper12]

My friend gave me this question. She said her husband does all he can to satisfy him (talking about the son) but he is never satisfied.

[red grasshopper12]

He is 7 yrs. Old.

we need more info than that hun

do you no why?
did he do or say something wrong?
how old is he?[your son]
when did everything start going bad?

[COOKIE MONSTER]

We can't tell you what's wrong or how to figure this out without the facts


When did this start?
What happened before it started was their any big disruption moving house,classes,school etc

[red grasshopper12]

Maybe could they be too controlling.

[COOKIE MONSTER]

If all the anger is going towards the father then it is something the father has said or done to make him this way,they need to ask him why he's being like this he is old enough to speak his mind and to say what's bothering him

It could be something so silly like he told him not to jump on the sofa,kids don't forget anything,it could be because daddy shouted at mommy it could be a lot of things

When I was about 6/7 I kicked the dog not perposely but I did mygrandad smacked myass after that I didn't call him grandad I called him 'him' I've never forgotten it,I used to avoid him,wouldn't speak to him,if mygrandma left the room so did I,if grandma went out I did aswel,I call him grandad now and we speak abit not much.but that's what kids are like they can hold grudges even so young

[red grasshopper12]

He hates being what he can do and not do.

[COOKIE MONSTER]

All kids are like that my 2year old hates me telling him what he can and can't do but that's just life we only tell then not to do things because we care and it would be agood idea for them to tell him this
Maybe if he spent aday everyweek if possible with his dad just them 2 and his dad talks with him about things like why he tells him off etc it mite help

Every time I tell myson not to do something I make apoint of telling him why he can't doit,like if he's going to hurt himself or his brother or if it will hurt some ones feelings.
Myson has just started spitting I have no idea were he got it from but if theirs one thing I hate its bloody spitting [hes probably got if from myfriends kids they are older] but when I told him off for doing it I told him its adirty thing to do and he should never spit in toys or on people because its avery bad thing to do,he also got stood in the corner he hasn't done it since thank god

But all kids hate being told what they can and can't do especially when they are 7

[red grasshopper12]

I know this not about this but I read if child doesn't like you, you have no business of having kids.

[COOKIE MONSTER]

No that's daft myson tells me 1minute he hates me for telling him off and the next he's giving me kissis and hugs

[red grasshopper12]

I guess they need to find some common ground.

[COOKIE MONSTER]

If the son likes football get his dad to take him football have days out just the 2 of them.

Uno since jaiden my youngest was born he's 5months I am so discusted to say his I've had no time for shay myeldest and he's been apain and people no when you have atoddler and anew born and your asingle parent its hard to split your time between both kids,cleaning,cooking,shopping,etc and he has been playing up A lot because I've not paid him much attention like I used to before my youngest was born but today I sat down with shay myeldest and we did painting most of the day he painted his nan abirthday card and mums boyfriend and his daughter and he was really good allday so the reason for myson being a little bleep was lack of myattention even though I'm with him all day everyday 24hours aday 7days aweek etc he still felt like we wasn't spending time together

So everyday now I'm going to put my youngest to bed for an hour or so and spend time with shay to try and stop him being bold and ask mymum if she will have jaiden for afew hours while I take shay to the park or to mcdonalds or even just for awalk just the 2 of us
Ill let you no how it goes

[red grasshopper12]

He likes baseball

[red grasshopper12]

Is there a top 10 list or something?

[COOKIE MONSTER]

What do you mean a top 10 list??
How are things going with your friends son and father?

[COOKIE MONSTER]

Well everythings going OK with my eldest shay he's been a lot better since I started sitting down with him and playing games and painting with him,we were playing in the garden today even though I felt like cr*p,we kicked to ball around and I shown him the flowers I've planted [he liked the plants and flowers he thought they were great] I'm going to get some cress tomorrow and make egg shell people with him he's been really good