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theguywithnolife · Mar 18, 2008, 07:21 PM

Here's my Problem

Basicially I met this girl about 2.5-3 years ago over the internet. For the 1st year-1.5 We were good friends and nothing but that. Well then for some reason (I don't remember) I just quit talking to her... I just stopped. It wasn't about her or anything it just happened.. Well about a year ago we got back into contact. Well then I started growing feelings for her. We've talked over the phone, over messengers, Even Web cam and We both have feelings for each over and I planned on visiting her for the 1st time this summer well then... She got a Boyfriend... and they've been dating for 3 months and I still plan on visiting her. Now she's told me that she loves me but she also loves her Boyfriend.. What do I do? Should I make a move on her While I'm visiting?

Marriedguy · Mar 18, 2008, 07:32 PM

Don't set yourself up for the heartbreak. She has feelings for you but she can't offer you a relationship. I would cancel the trip and be done with this. End it on good terms and keep you door open. Going over there will only make matters worse. Just fall back!

biggsie · Mar 18, 2008, 07:36 PM

Remember, every kind of relationship takes hard work and dedication to your loved one or partner, whether it's long distance or proximal. If you and your partner are willing to take these steps, then expect bumps and turns in the road. These bumps and turns will only help contribute towards a relationship.

Long distance relationships can and will test you and your partner; you need to trust him/her entirely as paranoia can play a major part in the demise of your relationship. Also, these kinds of relationships can bring a lot of disappointment and heartache--depending on the time you spend away from each other it is VERY important that if you want this relationship to work you must make a great effort not to drift apart.

Long distance relationships are difficult, as you are emotionally attached to a person you cannot touch or comfort (hug, kiss, hold hands), and this can hurt your heart and wreak havoc with your emotions. The only way to make these relationships work is if you and your partner honestly believe you will be able to survive without each other for a considerable amount of time without the need or desire to be with someone else.