[raggwell]

She prob in her own little way still holds something for you and cares for you. Thus the need to text you. Us girlies are like that, we sit by the phone waiting for you to ring or reply to a text. Then we weigh up the pros and cons of texting you. She is prob in a place where she feels she is strong enough to talk etc again, blokes normaly get there before us but in this case no. talk to her if you want and don't if you don't there is no one makingyou do what you don't want to. She prob doesn't have a specific reason for texting other than she thinks it was the right thing to do at the time, she prob v unawear of how you feel, either tell her or just leave it.

[ihatewestseneca]

Maybe she just had a fond memory of you and wanted to wish you good luck... nothing more.

How she found out is irrelevant as you aren't going anyway.

[in a state]

You were moving far away,she wasn't going to see you anymore,not even by accident,so yeah... it makes sense to me.you aren't strangers,you shared something so naturally she would be melancholic if you moved across the country,exiting her life for good.
But it doesn't mean anything.don't get confused
She just wanted to end it in a polite,friendly way,wishing you luck with your new life

[Romefalls19]

My whole problem was, there has been 2 months of no meaningful conversation AT ALL between the two of us, then all of sudden she gets wind I am leaving and she texts me. Bogus stuff as there was no need to text me about it. Especially considering things she has been saying trying to make it seem like I want her back and text her all the time. And to IN A STATE, we truly are strangers as she has done a complete 180 from when we were together to the point I don't even know who the girl is, no do I care too.

[talaniman]

Just be polite and keep everyone out of your business. Especially her.

[Romefalls19]

Yea, thought I could trust a few people at that job, but obviously thought wrong. I sure how she didn't take me replying politely as an invitation to try and be friends lol.. it's just not in the cards ha ha...

It's funny you say that Tal, because while I try to not find out anything about her, she tries to find anything about me. Who I'm talking to, if I'm dating, who I date... etc.

[BMI]

Sorry Rome but I think she is being polite and deserves a little credit. I think you are still angry over how things played out, which is fine so longas that anger does not cloud your judgement.

From what I see she thought you may be moving and wanted to say something about it, some ex's would not even bother, would that make you feel better? I think if she said nothing you may wonder whether she even cared at all, this way at least you know she does. She was polite and so will you when you respond.

[Romefalls19]

I did respond in a polite manner, my whole thing was me and her have not spoken in 2 months. And went to great lengths for her not to find out about me leaving and after talking to people and finding out who told her. She was even told that it's best not to speak to him about it because he didn't want you to know. So then she texted me anyway. And I thought about her being polite, but she is not polite anymore, she has become a two faced girl who has hidden agendas behind everything. It's amazing how much someone can change to someone you don't even know anymore.

[HistorianChick]

Personal anecdote...

I got a message on my myspace page two days ago from the ex that caused me to take out a restraining order, change my cell number and provider, and also necessitated MANY sleepless nights accusing me "What, you don't even want to be friends??" (haven't spoken to him since November)

Umm... No the whole "restraining order, if you contact me again I will contact your superior officer" thing kind of dictates the whole "terms of my relationship" with you, don't you think??

Anyway... the reason why I shared this is because he went on to tell me all about his house, his life, his dog, his fiance' with her three kids, and everything. Personally, I believe he did it simply to let me know that he's doing fine without me. Great! Bully for him.

I ignored it. I deleted it as soon as it came and ignored it. He knows exactly what buttons to push because we were in love for so long. But you know what? It's OK! I ignored him and his attempt to make me feel cruddy and useless. I'm the bigger person here.

Maybe she was being polite. Maybe she was letting you know that she still has an "in" into your life. Maybe she just wanted to remind you that she's still out there. I don't know. All I know is in my situation, he can do what he wants, he can try and control my responses, he can attempt to dictate the way I feel on any given day, but bottom line, he is no longer controlling my emotional state. He no longer has influence. Because I took back my control.

Does that sound all "women's lib"? Hopefully not. Hopefully, you'll understand what it means to take back control of your life because you've done that. You've survived and are now standing. Don't let this circumstance make you go backwards... don't let it control you.

Chin up, RomeFalls... you can do this, too. Just like you have in the past. :)

[Romefalls19]

Thanks Historian, I completely agree with the whole post. Only she knows what she texted me for, and I'm not prepared to go into hiding to try and figure out what she meant. It bothered me for awhile, I'm not going to lie, but then I simply let it go. I'm not going to be texting her or even trying to talk to her. If she feels the need to say hello, I shall respond accordingly. Just as ISneeze, I feel as though she was cheating on me with this other guy as things happened extremely quick. But that is neither here nor there, she violated my personal space by texting me, thus forcing me to reclaim that space ha ha

[HistorianChick]

Awesome... I'm glad you're OK. These exes know what hurts, what makes us wonder, what shakes us up, and what makes us question the very foundation of our own newfound independence... and yes, it does throw us for a loop for a minute... but just a minute. Yes they can still confuse and hurt us, but by golly, we're stronger than that! :) (I'm hearing Kevin McAllister, you? ;) )

You da bomb, babe! :)

[Romefalls19]

HA HA Home Alone... Clutch lol... Yea, they do know how to press our buttons, but the funny thing is, we also forget that we know what can press their buttons. Everyone wants to be needed, as as we come to terms with moving on, sometimes the ex decides to try and shove a wedge between our happiness and ourselves. Even if only for a moment they feel happier knowing we have stumbled. But remember, we have fallen as far as possible when they left us, so an occasional stumble isn't so bad

[talaniman]

We seem to question everything when we get the least amount of contact. It brings up old feelings, and worries, we thought were buried, and dead. We seem to lose that control, we worked so hard to get. Back to the path.

[Romefalls19]

Yup exactly Tal, no worries, I have come WAY to far to even begin to go down that hurtful path again