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LOVING_HIM2MUCH · Mar 14, 2008, 06:27 PM

My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months almost 11. We both agreed to break up because he needed to get stuff straightened out with his life. We were always arguing about the most stupid things ever. It was always about me doing something or lying. Idk what to doo because now he won't ever talk to me because A guy friend took me out to a show and I lied to him. I've said sorry and I really hope he gives me another chance but he says he won't. What should I do I want him back? :(

Homegirl 50 · Mar 14, 2008, 07:45 PM

You may want him back, but you can't make him want you back.
You might want to ask yourself why you were doing things that you would have to lie about. Why did you go out with someone else while you were with him? Maybe the relationship was not a match from the beginning.

captaincourageous · Mar 14, 2008, 07:57 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You may want him back, but you can't make him want you back.
You might want to ask yourself why you were doing things that you would have to lie about. Why did you go out with someone else while you were with him? Maybe the relationship was not a match from the beginning.

Exactly - why were you deceiving him in the first place?

youcantstop48 · Mar 14, 2008, 08:31 PM

Well it pretty much looks like you dug yourself a big hole and now he has the shovel covering it back up, you did this so I know that I wouldn't talk to you at all cause if you lie about something like that, just imagine what else you would lie about!!

LOVING_HIM2MUCH · Mar 14, 2008, 08:34 PM

We broke up and 2 days after was when I went to that show with a guy friend. I really don't understand why he's mad when were not even together. He's the one who wanted to break up the relationship, and said that he wanted to be just friends. So I kept on telling myself I still loved him but he doesn't love me back why waist time.

youcantstop48 · Mar 14, 2008, 08:36 PM

Well if you loved him then why did you lie to him??

Homegirl 50 · Mar 14, 2008, 08:42 PM

Originally Posted by LOVING_HIM2MUCH

We broke up and 2 days after was when i went to that show with a guy friend. I really don't understand why he's mad when were not even together. He's the one who wanted to break up the relationship, and said that he wanted to be just friends. So i kept on telling myself I still loved him but he doesn't love me back why waist time.

So what is your question then? If he is not showing you love why would you want him back?
There were problems in the relationship, you said you guys were always arguing. Who needs the drama. You dated, it didn't work, now move on.

LOVING_HIM2MUCH · Mar 14, 2008, 08:44 PM

I don't know . I really really love him, and lying too him was a big mistake.

Homegirl 50 · Mar 14, 2008, 08:47 PM

Why do you lie to him? There is obviously a problem there. You may love him, or think you do, but loving someone who does not make you happy, who does not love you back is usless.

youcantstop48 · Mar 14, 2008, 08:47 PM

Well the saying goes, "you dont realize what you got till its gone"!!

Homegirl 50 · Mar 14, 2008, 08:50 PM

Sounds to me like the guy may be a bit controlling which is why you might be feeling the need to lie. That is not the sign of a healthy relationship.
Leave him be. It will be better for you in the end

talaniman · Mar 15, 2008, 01:50 PM

what should I do I want him back? :(

Anything you do, will be either humiliating, or stupid, so leave it be, and move on.

Aliya babie · Mar 15, 2008, 11:44 PM

Give him some time
Because appoligizing over and over can just irritate him a lot
.. he may notice how much he misses you
But after a couple of weeksz of a break?
Yuh can try talking to him again
Explianing and admiting your mistakesz
Promising not to do it agen
And..

Relationshipz are based on trust; truth honesty.
Even if you do make a mistake.. take the time to be honest
Because it really does show how mcuh you love him in the end.
:) keep your head up
Everything will be okayy ( yn )

LOVING_HIM2MUCH · Mar 21, 2008, 10:11 AM

Thanks for all the advice.

Things are getting kind of better I guess. Now when I try too forget about him and move on. He still calls me and when I go and hang out with other guys he still is getting mad. I just don't understandd whut he wants from me.

jolienoire · Mar 21, 2008, 11:25 AM

Originally Posted by LOVING_HIM2MUCH

I just don't understandd whut he wants from me.

CONTROL!! He wanted to end this relationship, he can't forgive you, he insist on calling you, sounds to me like he is confused himself, or just wants to be in control, and you don't want this relationship either because you went out with another guy and lied so something def was unfulfilling in this relationship, My suggestion change your number if you must... stop updating him on your life, it is still to soon anyway after the breakup to have contact with him.

Leonstryfe · Mar 21, 2008, 07:16 PM

You should always be honest with your partner... I would always tell my partner where I was going to go and expects the same from her. Maybe he told you a lot of things that he didn't like... and expected you to understand and respect his wishes. The fact that you lied to him about hanging out with a guy really makes a person think. People shouldn't lie if there is no reason to lie... You can answer that question yourself.. why did you lie? What did you fear and that you needed to hide... Give him time and talk to him again... maybe he will rethink things through... but I'm telling you right now.. if you continue this, you won't see him again.

You know the saying... "Fool me once, shame on you.... Fool me twice, shame on me.." He probably just doesn't want to be fooled again.. Cheer up...

bigmamaof2 · Mar 21, 2008, 07:49 PM

There is a saying a live by... Let it go... If it returns it was meant to be... if not it was not to be... You need to wait and see and if he don't come back there is others out there... It will hurt but its up to him if he wants to come back and next time don't hold anything from him... :(