[lh5683]

How normal is normal in watching porn or when is it enough

[tickle]

If you are a relationship and you find you are watching porn a lot by yourself then you know there is something wrong.

Who knows what is normal. The fact that you are on here asking must mean you watch it too much and you are uncomfortable with that revelation.

[kp2171]

If you are the one watching porn you should consider a few things...

1) does it help or hurt your sexual relationship in the bedroom. If its taking sexual energy away, either mentally distracting you from your partner, or physically hurting you (masturbation "fatigue"), its not good if you are interested in keeping the relationship healthy. Personally, I think it can desensitize too many people to be helpful, while some couples certainly find it fun to share. Opinion, most porn probably "teaches" people terrible habits and rituals about sex that often just don't work well physically for most and then wind up being a mental block. Those who can be mentally stimulated without trying to emulate dumb, ineffective postitions or situations are probably just fine.

2) how does your partner feel about it? If you are hiding it, it's a wall you are putting up. Not to say all great relationships are 100% open honestly... my partner hasn't told me when she masturbated last, instead of waiting for me... but I'm guessing she has recently. OK. She can have that "secret" and still not have it affect our relationship. She's still attentive, loving, giving, etc...

But if your partner would be hurt if they found your stash or found out... and you KNOW it would hurt them... then you are walking on eggshells.

Not going to tell you not to do it... but you know if you are doing something that would hurt your partner behind his/her back... then you aren't thinking in their best interest or in the interest of the relationship.

Sooo...

The OP doesn't tell much info... what's up? Just feeling a little overboard? Just wondering? Been burned? More info.

[anette]

Me and my wife watch and have it as shown in it... if its more we switch it off...

[tickle]

I am still in the dark about one or two issues here. Your are post under 'anette' and say 'me and my wife', but I am not naïve by any stretch of the imagination.

So, you and your wife watch the porno movie and then copy the movements physically, right? I am not being forward, just trying to understand.

What do you mean by 'if its more we switch it off' ?

[razor96]

Leads to nothing but problems unless you are single and do not care

[smoothy]

If you aren't sneaking out of bed to do it in private then its not a problem... I watch porn, but my wife is usually there if she isn't watching it with me. I have no compulsion to do it all day long. Or count the time until I'm home and can get to it again.