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calee88 · Feb 28, 2008, 11:19 PM

Me and My husband have been trying to get pregnant now for 3 yrs. We have had no luck. Im just wondering if anyone can help me on telling me what kind of test my doctor will do to check my fertility... I have had pre cancer cells and my doctor said that should not have affected me but I'm not really sure that's right... Does anyone know about this also... Any kind of help PLease!!

Wondergirl · Feb 29, 2008, 12:32 AM

It sure would be a lot easier to check your husband's fertility first. Has that been done yet?

calee88 · Feb 29, 2008, 06:44 AM

No we haven't. He has two boys from a other marriage so we never thought about it being him... But I guess that don't really matter. Thank you...

macksmom · Feb 29, 2008, 07:30 AM

My doctor did a few things. She took blood to check all my hormones to make sure they were at the right levels to achieve pregnancy. I also don't have periods so I had to start on a medication to induce a cycle. When we tried just using that and still didn't get pregnant she did some more lab work to check other levels she also sent my husband to get tested (which came back normal). When all my labs came back fine she wanted to send me for a scan of my fallopian tubes at the hospital. A dye is injected and then a scan watches it travel through your fallopian tubes. This test is done to see if your fallopian tubes may be blocked. It also serves as a fertility treatment because the dye clears out your fallopian tubes. I didn't have this test done because my insurance didn't cover it and it was somewhat expensive. My doctor then put me on Clomid (a hormone that induces ovulation and increases the quality of egg). That usually works for most women... unfortunately it hasn't worked for me yet so I am going on the highest dose this month and if it doesn't work my doctor is sending me to a fertility specialist.

macksmom · Feb 29, 2008, 07:32 AM

Originally Posted by calee88

No we havent. He has two boys from a other marriage so we never thought about it being him..... But I guess that dont really matter. Thank you....

Oh and I forgot to comment on this... having kids previously doesn't matter. I have a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I had her while I was on birth control pills :eek: so I thought we would have NO problem getting pregnant... boy was I wrong.

We thought the same thing you are... we thought the problem may be with my husband since I have had a child... but he tested fine.

So even though your husband has children, he still should get tested as well.

calee88 · Feb 29, 2008, 07:57 AM

Thank you for your help. I will get him to go get checked also... I never knew getting pregnant would be so hard. It makes you depressed to know that a lot people can just snap their fanger and puff their pregnant. It makes me sick... Im to the point to where Im just going to give up. We have full custody of his two boys or "OUR" two boys. Their really mother has nothing to do with them. She just the women who had them for me is what I call her, But I'm to the point that god blessed me to have these two and I will be happy with just them if I don't every get pregnant and have one of my own... These two boys are my own, but it sure would be nice to have one... But I will get intouch with my doctor and see about the test you mentioned. Im not good with needles but if going to have a baby I guess I better get used to them... LOL... A child is worth ever ounce of pain, "I think"!LOL

Chery · Feb 29, 2008, 08:05 AM

Originally Posted by macksmom

Oh and I forgot to comment on this.....having kids previously doesn't matter. I have a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I had her while I was on birth control pills :eek: so I thought we would have NO problem getting pregnant....boy was I wrong.

We thought the same thing you are.....we thought the problem may be with my husband since I have had a child...but he tested fine.

So even though your husband has children, he still should get tested as well.

How true.
There could be many more factors involved, i.e. age, nutrition (if a woman does not consume enough fatty milk products - like eating fat free cheese, yogurt, drinking fat-free milk, etc) the body thinks that the woman might not be able to produce enough healthy milk for a child. It may sound silly, but nature is funny that way and studies have proved that this is true. You can see it especially with women who have eating-disorders - their bodies revert back to pre-puberty and that's why they hardly get PG. So the hint is to eat and drink normal milk products if you are trying to get PG. That's good news if you like icecream too.
As far as men - if you live in a place that is hot most of the time, or your hubby goes to the sauna a lot, showers real hot, or visits a solarium, then those little fellas don't produce as much as they should sometimes either. The scrotum should be kept as cool as possible. My grandson's dad thought he could not have kids anymore because of medication he takes (which is also possible), but after being assigned in a cold country for three months - oops.. and they did their job right after he came back home. IMO that was a wonderful 'accident'.
Again, good luck to both of you ladies - I sincerely hope you get your wish.

macksmom · Feb 29, 2008, 09:12 AM

Originally Posted by calee88

thank you for your help. i will get him to go get checked also.... I never knew getting pregnant would be so hard. It makes you depressed to know that alot people can just snap their fanger and puff their pregnant. It makes me sick... Im to the point to where Im just going to give up. We have full custody of his two boys or "OUR" two boys. Their really mother has nothing to do with them. She just the women who had them for me is what i call her, But im to the point that god blessed me to have these two and I will be happy with just them if I dont every get pregnant and have one of my own... These two boys are my own, but it sure would be nice to have one.... But i will get intouch with my doctor and see about the test you mentioned. Im not good with needles but if going to have a baby I guess i better get used to them...LOL...... A child is worth ever ounce of pain, "I think"!LOL

Check with your OBGYN, mine was able to just write out and order for my husband to get checked... it cut the time, instead of him having to go to his doctor, explain the problem and ask for the test. My OBGYN has handled everything.

And I'm with you... I know how tough it is, and sometimes the disappointment every month seems too much to bear. You feel like a failure and it seems like everyone around you is getting pregnant.

I'm sure you feel much like my husband... my daughters bio father is not involoved. My husband considers my daughter his own. (Matter of fact, the bio father is signing over his rights so my husband can adopt her). So although he doesn't seem too upset with the fact that we are having so much trouble getting pregnant... I'm sure he wants a child of his own, and I want to give him that.

It's rough, I know... but hang in there. Get an appt set with your OBGYN. There is a lot you can do before going to a fertility specialist :)

Good luck!

**and yes... all the pain in the world is worth holding that baby :)

Wondergirl · Feb 29, 2008, 11:28 AM

Originally Posted by calee88

i will get him to go get checked also

I'm glad. I remember reading about acidity and alkalinity between Couple X's reproductive fluids. Even if one of them has had kids with someone else, Couple X may not be able to easily get pregnant because of their pH is unbalanced. Also, how your husband lives his life can affect his fertility. I couldn't figure out why I wasn't getting pregnant, and then figured out (from reading and researching) what was wrong--my husband took a long, hot bath every night and wore tight underwear. Once he changed those two habits, I got pregnant. It could be something that simple.

calee88 · Mar 4, 2008, 12:11 PM

My husband has put on a lot of weight in the past couple of years.. Could that be a problem also... I can't get back in to my ob until July. So that kind of puts a hold on all the testing. I don't really want to go to another dr. but July is long... Should I try to go to another or just wait until then... Also he takes hot showers of the morning and he wears the boxer breifs do I need to get him to stop the really hot showers and change his underwear?? He also has trouble with his blood pressure!! For the past couple of years his blood pressure has been running really high. He want go back to the dr. and talk to them about it because he does not want to take a pill everyday for the rest of his life. Hes a mess I'm telling you, I would like to hang him...

And a big THANKS to everyone who is helping me out... It means a lot to have people I can talk to about this. It's a real hard thing to deal with on your own...

I wish everyone that is having this same problem the best in the world and I will keep you in my prayers... He can help!!

Chery · Mar 4, 2008, 01:47 PM

I don't think the weight is a problem, but the others are. Different medications change sperm production and I think that blood pressure and/or beta-blockers are chemically similar and do in fact change fertility and even sometimes the 'urges'. So, have your hubby tell the dr that you are trying to have a baby and maybe he can help with different medications. In the meantime get your hubby to change his shower temp and underwear habits by explaining the reasons.

We are here for you, but you do know that eventually only a visit to the dr will give you the reassurance you need.

Good luck.

Stress is sometimes a large factor so try to stay relaxed about it until you've gotten the answers from the doctor - no matter how long it takes - you've waited this long, so again, try not to stress yourselves out.

calee88 · Mar 4, 2008, 03:08 PM

Hes not on any type of medication... He want go to the doctor for his blood pressure. And I will try to keep my stress down. Thank you and I will make him stop the hot showers and change underware for a while and see how that does...

Chery · Mar 5, 2008, 01:34 PM

Originally Posted by calee88

Hes not on any type of medication.... He want go to the doctor for his blood pressure. And I will try to keep my stress down. Thank you and I will make him stop the hot showers and change underware for a while and see how that does......

Honey, I think you need to talk to him about more than just showers and underwear. If he in fact has high blood pressure and does not get it treated through medication or strict diet (check the internet for hypertension and diet) then he might not be around long to share life with a new baby - if you get lucky enough and have one.
IMO you need to solve a few serious health and communication issues - make sure that that this is the future you both want and then talk about it and work on it together. Otherwise there might be a wish not granted here.
Being over-weight and having hypertension without treatment does not sound like a responsible person to me, so you really need to help him get there..
Hoping all will work out dear, so keep us posted.

calee88 · Mar 9, 2008, 12:56 PM

Hey guys, He is finally going to go to the doctor on march 11th. For blood pressure. Hes so crazy for skipping this stuff. Anyway, Im 6 days late. Not trying to get my hopes up too much. Going to take a pregnant. Test next Sunday. Everyone in the family has said to wait a little while longer. That stressing out can play the roll for me being late. That's very true... So I'm going to give it little while to make sure Im truly late... But I will keep in touch and let everyone know what happens with brian and about the pregnant. Test... KEEP PRAYING!!

macksmom · Mar 10, 2008, 06:26 AM

It's true that many factors (stress being a big factor) can cause your period to be late or you could skip it altogether.

If you are 6 days late you could take a pregnancy test now... but waiting is okay as it just gives more time for the HCG to build up in your system if you are pregnant. Make sure you test first thing in the morning with your FIRST urine. It will be more concentrated.

Good luck!! **babydust**

Chery · Mar 10, 2008, 11:56 AM

Originally Posted by calee88

Hey guys, He is finally going to go to the doctor on march 11th. for blood pressure. Hes so crazy for skipping this stuff. Anyways, Im 6 days late. Not trying to get my hopes up to much. Going to take a preg. test next sunday. Everyone in the family has said to wait a little while longer. That stressing out can play the roll for me being late. Thats very true..... So im going to give it little while to make sure Im truely late... But I will keep in touch and let everyone know what happens with brian and about the preg. test.... KEEP PRAYING!!!!!!!

Our thoughts and best wishes are with you dear. So good to hear that your hubby is taking his health serious too.