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comemylady · Mar 9, 2008, 03:48 PM

I can get an orgasm when my boyfriend plays with my or goes down on me, but I cannot orgasm during sex, how can I, as I don't look forward to sex the way my boyfriend does.
Also does orgasm mean come for ladies as well? If you reach climax does that mean you have come?
What happens during sex if the women comes before the men, can she keep going?

Also, my boyfriend has a really high sex drive, he says he loves it, and he sees it more of a need than a want. If we are on a night out, he often wants to leave early to have sex, and drinking makes him horny, is this normal behaviour for a 20 year old lad? Or this suggest I'm being used?

Wondergirl · Mar 9, 2008, 04:04 PM

climax = come = orgasm

Most women cannot orgasm only during intercourse. Her clitoris is the center of her sexual feelings, so the clitoris must be stimulated for her to experience orgasm. Women can learn to have multiple orgasms. Men aren't so lucky.

COOKIE MONSTER · Mar 9, 2008, 04:08 PM

Just because your boyfriend wants to leave and go home and have sex doesn't mean he's using you.and a lot of women can't orgasm when having sex but can with oral or getting played with its normal hun,but try different persitions different places the couch is agood place he sits on the sofa normally and you sit on his need facing him he'll get deeper and he mite beable to hit the spot

And just because you don't orgasm during sex doesn't mean you shouldn't enjoy it

I've not had an orgasm in years,it gets too intence then it gets uncomfertable

comemylady · Mar 9, 2008, 04:25 PM

So it is fairly normal for my boyfriend to want sex everyday. I fear he is a sex pest, he says he tries to show he's not by showing me he can enjoy my company, but even if we just kiss he gets a hard on. I don't think he uses me, as he chased me for the best part of a year then when I finally agreed to date him, I made him wait and wait and wait for sex, then he does always want to be with me and text and care, and stuff. Its just he has a highger sex drive than me bigstyle and I think he would like it everyday!

COOKIE MONSTER · Mar 9, 2008, 04:53 PM

Well if he didn't want it id worrie

Myfella wants it everyday several times aday well we both do we've both got high sex drives,yes it is normal for afella to want sex everyday especially when they wake up that's when you get jumpped lol

COOKIE MONSTER · Mar 9, 2008, 04:57 PM

Stop worrieing about nothing hun. And just because when you kiss he gets ahard on doesn't mean he's asex pest lol it just means when you kiss him you turn him on you kiss him just right,he's attracted to you and when you touch or kiss him you'll turn him on its natural .myfellas the same lol and he grabs myhand and says look what uve dun and that's just from kissin. Don't worrie

Choux · Mar 9, 2008, 06:08 PM

I wonder how old you are, come?

There are many factors in operation that inhibit a female from enjoying her natural capacity for orgasmic release and multiple orgasmic bliss. According to statistics, only 15% of females have multiple orgasms and only about half of women are orgasmic with their husbands. That shows that women are way out of touch with their sexuality... inhibited and repressed due to religious influences, parental influence and certainly the negative messages women get from the media of all kinds regarding female body image.

I think you would do well to get in touch with you sexual side by purchasing a beginner's book that gives you instructions on how to pleasure yourself and learn all about your erogenous zones. Practice, practice, practice... you have a lot of sensual exercises to do to overcome bad societal influence and free up your sexuality.

Good Luck,

COOKIE MONSTER · Mar 9, 2008, 06:14 PM

Choux can you awnser myquestion in adult sexuality please if you can I've bin waiting ages for sum1 to awnser but no one has lol was waiting for j9 to come on and awnser it but no luck

Choux · Mar 9, 2008, 06:36 PM

No problem, I did. :)Give me some feed back, that always helps me answer. :)

simoneaugie · Mar 10, 2008, 12:05 AM

A guy who wants sex (at age 20) at least once a day, I consider normal. Some men at that age want it way more. When he kisses you and gets an erection? That's normal too. If you were having an orgasm every time, once a day might be not enough.

Many women cannot have an orgasm with regular sex. Keep practicing. He can learn to wait for you too. Practice while you are on top. Do what feels good to you while he holds back. Men claim to enjoy the excitement of sex. Orgasms are generally easy for them. For women, excitement is less important. Orgasms are the goal. Having an orgasm does not slow women down much. We can keep right on doing it. We can have many orgasms, all in the same session.

charlotte234s · Mar 10, 2008, 12:13 AM

My boyfriend wants some kind of stimulation daily, as I only feel like it maybe every other day or so, but I try to oblige him, but unless he is a poor partner in other ways I don't see an active sex drive as him using you. What you can try is to look up sex positions that are good for clitoral stimulation, or just experiment, also, try just touching yourself or having him touch you during intercourse, it can help a lot.