[wot2do]

Okay for those who don't know my story my ex (nrly 4 year relationship, she 23 me 25)broke up with me 3 months ago (well techically 3 weeks since she said she does not want to get back together because at first she said it was a break). As we left it she said she was not sure how she felt but she did not want to get back together at the moment and could she write to me in a few months. I said only if you change your mind.. or something a long those lines. As far as I am concerned this relationship is over... I have moved on, I am doing great, I am happy ish.

Anyway - I find out she's been spending all her time with some bloke... I'm okay with that she can do what she wants as can I we are no longer together. HOWEVER! I rememberd about 3 weeks before she broke up with she played baddminton with this bloke and went for a few drinks after with him knowing she was supposed to meet me. Afterwards she said she felt really guilty and was crying she felt so bad... I have to admit I thought it was odd and put it down to work and being depressed. At no point did I think somin funny going on here.. partly because well he's a right ugly guy, and secondly I thought she was infactuated with me. Anyway... it got me thinking is this the reason of the breakup? Have I been lied to? Even if nothing was going on... was this the catalyst? If I see him out.. I guess its wrong to kung fu his . Why do I feel so furious - I'm trying my best not to text her I figured it out... Although Okay I don't know if they are dating but... it smells fishy. Why do I feel like she's got one over on me. Is it wrong to text her how mad I am that she's been lying to me?

[confused25]

Just let it go dude. What's the point? Do you really think you'll get satisfaction out of this? What if you're wrong and she finds a way to turn this on you (a lot of women are very good at that lol). The relationship is over and there is no point in re-opening old wounds.

Forget it about and move on. I know it hurts and its okay to be angry. However, no good comes from blindly letting your anger out. Avoid the drama and go let your anger out at the gym.

[ihatewestseneca]

Relax... she not yours anymore, it doesn't matter. My ex left me for someone else and lied to me about it, I was mad, but I found out a lot sooner. It doesn't matter what she does. Chances are, this guy is a rebound anyway

[talaniman]

Is it wrong to txt her how mad I am that she's been lying to me?

Of course its wrong, and why should you care, as its none of your business, anymore.

[wot2do]

Maybe I should not care... but if she's been cheating on me then I don't want her to get away with it. Im not saying I'm going to become a crazy slashing tires etc... but the least she deserves is a harsh text message telling her not to bother writing to me in the future or anything because I don't want to know someone who does that

[TrueFaith]

Let it go man she liked this guy while you was together that's why she broke up
The second someone says lets take a brake you tell them to sod off. Simple!


Don't get upset by this man she found someone else it sucks I know. But don't waist more of your engery on this.

Nothing you can do now will change anything focuse on yourself bud and wait for someone with the guts to tell you when they want to leave you for someone else


Regards

[ihatewestseneca]

Be the bigger man and let it go. You're letting it get to you, I sent my ex an angry email when I found about the other guy like a week after the break up, she didn't respond for a few days, and it drove me nuts, and then she responded with more BS. Just let it go.

[confused25]

It's hard dude, but it's best to let it go. Come on, ask yourself, what difference would an angry text make? Be the mature adult in this and let it go.

[TrueFaith]

I know you want to tell her I always knew you had someone else I'm not slly I'm not dumb. Well if you do tell her that then you will silly and dumb and all the things you don't want to look like.

The best thing to do is as everyone else said

Whatever. Thanks for the memories

Ill send you a bill for all the time I have waisted on you

[talaniman]

Amazing how we give power, to someone who is not thinking about us whatsoever.

[N0help4u]

Is it wrong to txt her how mad i am that shes been lying to me?

NO its not wrong but it IS pointless.
Just chalk it up to a lesson learned

[wot2do]

You guys are right... I am not lowering myself.. once again to that level. I resisted sending her a txt - thanks for knocking some sense into me. That part of my life is over... time to move on!

[AKaeTrue]

Maybe I should not care...but if she's been cheating on me then I dont want her to get away with it. Im not saying im gona become a crazy slashing tires etc...but the least she deserves is a harsh txt msg telling her not to bother writing to me in the future or nething cus i dont want to know someone who does that

I can see your point of view and where it would make you feel better inside.
But from the girls point of view, no matter how mean and nasty the txt,
It's going to appear to her that she has you right where she wants you.
No matter how hard you try to deny it, by you txting her, it's only going to show her that you still care in some way, shape, form, or fashion.
Let this go, and if she does decide to write you in a couple of months, don't reply, and that will be your sweet victory!

So good job for not txting her so far and try to keep all the advice you've received in mind.
Good luck with moving on.