[Chatelaine]

I am from North Carolina and recently found out I am pregnant. When the father was informed, he made it clear to me that he did not want anything to do with the pregnancy, child nor the raising. He wants to voluntarily give up his parental rights. My question is, can I get the papers drawn up & signed before the child is actually born or do I have to wait until birth?

[charlotte234s]

You should wait until the child is born and have a paternity test, then when it is positive that he is the father, you may have him sign over his rights, although you can talk to an attorney now in preparation.

[Fr_Chuck]

You have to wait till the child is born, of course signing away his rights normally does not stop you from collecting child support ( he most likely does not know this) once he finds out he will still have to pay child support I doubt he will be as interested.

[ScottGem]

Ain't going to happen. What this irresponsible person really wants is to not have to support the kid. But the courts are NOT going to allow him to relinquish his rights. Nor should you let him off the hook for child support.

[macksmom]

First off, you can't do anything until the child is born.

That being said... he can't relinquish his parental rights, regardless if you both are in agreement or not. Two people made this child and two people need to support them.

Now if the times comes that you get married and your husband wants to adopt the child, at that time your ex could relinquish his rights to allow for the adoption.

[serialwife]

Most states will not terminate parental rights unless there is an serious act of neglect or abuse. They especially won't terminate if someone is trying to get out of child support. The state considers that a form of bastardization( it's in statute as that word). The only reason they generally agree to voluntary terminations it that the party is admitting to the abuse or neglect or they are willing to allow the child to be adopted by a stepparent