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    Mar 7, 2008, 07:11 PM
    My son is getting abad temper!
    My son is just 4 and ahalf months old and just after xmas he started getting atemper say I had hold of him and the door bell goes I put him in his chair and he'll arch his back and go red in the face and its like agrowel cross ascream , its getting worse its when I lay him down now or when his bottle falls out or if your not looking at him or talking to him

    Not sure what to do didn't have this problem with my other 1,I can't tell him off he doesn't understand and sitting him in the corner is pointles lol I have to stop this before it get out of hand any 1 got any ideas??

    Plus I don't pick him up all the time so it can't be that,I do pick him up and cuddle him and play with him but not a lot and not for along period
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    Mar 7, 2008, 08:25 PM
    So, you say he is 4 1/2 MONTHS old or years? If he's 4 1/2 months then he is just being a baby. You just have a difficult baby on your hands. Things will eventually get better. Just make sure you are giving him enough attention and not ignoring his quieter cries.
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    Mar 8, 2008, 12:30 AM
    you should try this... when he is having his temper get down to his level and tell him what he is doing rong and give him a worrning... if that does not work find a place in the home that no one can bother him and give him a time out and tell him why he is getting a time out... and for 4 minutes because that is how old he is ever (1 year = 1 min.) then you would go to him and exsplane agean what he did rong and ask him to say sorry... and that should help and keep on doing it and it could help

    will I hope this helps you out good luck ;-)
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    Mar 8, 2008, 12:40 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Dreams of lies
    a time out... and for 4 minutes because that is how old he is ever (1 year = 1 min.)
    She said he's 4.5 MONTHS old.
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    Mar 8, 2008, 03:05 AM
    He's 4 and ahalf months but its just getttin worse I thort it would go away or he'd calm down but he's not, sounds stupid I no he can't understand but I tell him he's being naughty my eldest son was never like this he was great till he hit 1 and ahalf and started terrible 2's
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    Mar 8, 2008, 11:23 AM
    Well, Mom, he's learned how to manipulate you. Believe it or not, babies can do that as young as 4 1/2 MONTHS old.

    You will just have to let him cry it out. Let him have his temper tantrum and not respond. Now, keep an eye on him, make sure he can't get hurt, but ignore the behavior. You are the one in control and you must teach him that.
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    Mar 8, 2008, 11:57 AM
    My younger brother, as a baby under a year old, would have tantrums and even pound his head against the tile or wooden floor until his forehead was bruised. My mother put him in a safe place, like a playpen, and let him cry it out while she stayed nearby and did housework. The tantrums got to be less terrible, and by age four he had outgrown them. My mother once said to him when he was older and thought his tantrums as a child were funny, "I hope you have a child just like you have been, so you understand what I've been through." And sure enough, he did.
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    Mar 8, 2008, 12:26 PM
    I've tried letting him cry it out and bi**h away to himself he just works himself into aterrible state,the odd time he's cryed himself to sleep.ill try it again it was just after he started with his temper I let him cry it out did it for 2days couldn't take the screamin [i suffer with mygrains] didn't help myhead at alll but ill av atry again

    Thanks everyone
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    Mar 8, 2008, 12:35 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by COOKIE MONSTER
    ive tried lettin him cry it out n bi**h away to himself he just works himself into aterrible state,the odd time hes cryed himself to sleep.ill try it again it was just after he started with his temper i let him cry it out did it for 2days couldnt take the screamin [i suffer with mygrains] didnt help myhead at alll but ill av atry again

    thanks everyone
    If ignoring him hasn't worked, be creative and try things to get him back to normal, like singing songs to him (belt out a C&W or R&B song) or tell him a story about how the animals had a picnic and be sure to add animal sounds to jazz it up or move him around from one safe place to another. Go to your public library and find childcare books on dealing with difficult babies and how to deal with tantrums. The books will be 649.1 or thereabouts. Ask for help finding them if necessary.
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    Mar 8, 2008, 01:34 PM
    I no he likes music I have it on most of the time,he won't go for anap in the day with out it,he doesn't bother at night if its not on he sleeps from about 6;30pm till 7;20am on the dot lol just remembered I bought abook ages ago by dr spocks,it doesn't say anything about ababy having atantrum it says all children between 1and 3 years of age have temper tantrums.ill av alook on the net theirs got to be something on the net
    If I can't find anything on the net ill go the library
    Thank you
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    Mar 8, 2008, 01:45 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by COOKIE MONSTER
    i no he likes music i have it on most of the time,he wont go for anap in the day with out it,he doesnt bother at nite if its not on he sleeps from about 6;30pm till 7;20am on the dot lol just remembered i bought abook ages ago by dr spocks,it doesnt say anythin about ababy having atantrum it says all children between 1and 3 years of age have temper tantrums.ill av alook on the net theirs got to be something on the net
    if i can't find anythin on the net ill go the library
    thank you
    When my first baby got restless and screamy (he had colic), a friend of mine would hold him in her arms and rock him back and forth quite vigorously. She was a very calm person and that motion seemed to soothe him. (I used to tease her that she was going to turn his brains into oatmeal.) I finally bought one of those baby swings which was a forward-and-backward motion but also seemed to soothe him. My mother used to take me on car rides when I got fussy and wouldn't go to sleep. Motion and vibration and probably warmth (wrapping him in a blanket freshly warm--not hot!--from the dryer) seem to help cranky babies.
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    Mar 8, 2008, 01:56 PM
    Lol well I'm abit f**ked then I've not got acar and I haven't got adryer,I've got abouncer for the door and I was going to get him aswing but their for 6months +. I'm prayin he'll grow out of it, he couldn't have abehavioural problem so young could he?
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    Mar 8, 2008, 04:18 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by COOKIE MONSTER
    lol well im abit f**ked then ive not got acar and i havent got adryer,ive got abouncer for the door and i was goin to get him aswing but their for 6months +. im prayin he'll grow out of it, he couldnt have abehavioural problem so young could he?
    I'm guessing he'll grow out of it. Think about it. You're a little baby and have absolutely no control over what happens in your life. Crying will make Mommy walk over to see what's the matter. Crying loudly will make her walk over more quickly and she will do things to make your life better (change diaper, feed, hold and pat). Screaming hysterically also causes her to walk over to you, but now she's nervous and upset. Wow! You caused that to happen. You have some control over things after all. Let's see what else screaming will do!

    The only other thing would be if he has a physical/medical problem, so be sure to ask the doctor about that during the next checkup.
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    Mar 8, 2008, 04:51 PM
    Yeah I'm going to,ill ask the health nurse she's due to come and giv him aonce over she's cumin round Monday I think
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    Mar 8, 2008, 07:29 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl
    She said he's 4.5 MONTHS old.
    Then add a half an hour to it
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    Mar 8, 2008, 08:31 PM
    Obviously you did not understand what she was saying. You said 1year equals 1 minute... well, the kid isn't 1 year old yet... it's kind of hard to put a 4 1/2 MONTH old in the corner.
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    Mar 9, 2008, 07:46 AM
    He'd probably enjoy it lol.my 2year old is being made to stand in the corner nothing else seems to be working lol all I have to say is ''do you want to stand in the corner'' then he says no and stops what ever he's doing, I had him stand in the corner the otherday for brakin myclock he stood the for 5mins that was the 1st time id tried the corner then he wouldn't say sorry for brakin it so I made him stand their for 5mins more I tell you I was getting to the point were I was going to giv up with him [from 7am till 6pm I sound like abroken record''dont do that'dont do that'DONT DO THAT']but since I started the corner he's been a lot better.
    I'm going to try afew thimgs people av said,dr spocks book has nothing about tempers in baby's but thank you for helping,I even brought the travel cot down and put it in mykitchen so he could roll about in it but he goes mad because he can't see everyone I can't win lol but ill giv it all another go

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