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to6500 · Mar 7, 2008, 03:40 PM

My boyfriend is 51 & I am 42 not on birth control. I have no children, nor do I desire one. Ihave made this clear. I am 100% self supportive making 3 times more that my man. We don't discuss that point as it is a sore subject. He is from the coutry, I am from the city. I only want to feel loved, and his resistance to make love to me makes me feel unwanted. His 15 yeqr old daughter is having sex, and iI have stated although not in good taste that his 15 year old can get laid, then so should I. It really isn't a comptition, but I want to feel my man, and not have pre-teen sex. I asked him the other night, and he stated he didn't want to get me pregenant. What is really going on? I want to be loved fully.

COOKIE MONSTER · Mar 7, 2008, 04:08 PM

Have you ever thort he could have problems with that part of his body he's 51 it won't work the way it used to but then again it mite and he genrally mite be concerned about getting you pregnant maybe if you started taking the pill and you tell him you are it mite change his mind or get sum condoms

Choux · Mar 7, 2008, 05:27 PM

I would think he is having erection problems concerning you for whatever reason... medication, lack of desire, porn addiction, religious hang-ups, and so on.

COOKIE MONSTER · Mar 7, 2008, 05:41 PM

Well if he's not had many partners he mite be worried that she's more experienced than him

Fr_Chuck · Mar 7, 2008, 08:15 PM

1. He does not want to have sex unless he is married.

2. something about her just comparing the teenage daughter having sex just seems wrong in far too many ways for some reason.

3. after 50, many men have some problems in that area. ** thank god for those little blue pills. But too many men are afraid to admit the problem, and/or to talk t their doctor about it.

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hollylovesbrandon · Mar 8, 2008, 02:35 PM

I am pretty sure that bringing up the daughter and rubbing that in his face just complicated the problem further. Never shove things in his face. He could be impitant (sp?) and he's trying anything he can to hide it. He could be suffering from erectile dysfunction. He could legitimately be worried you will get pregnant. A lot of things can be going on. I would suggest that you sit him down and let him know that WHATEVER it is that is REALLY going on, you will understand. Let him know you will be there for him but he has to tell you what is really going on. Have a legitimate discussion as adults (and please, leave the 15 yr olds out of this). Talking can do miraculous things for a relationship.

Xrayman · Mar 10, 2008, 04:03 PM

I'm sorry I think you all have missed the boat (the point) I think you are somewhat controlling, rude (the daughter thing is just ridiculous to bring up), the wage he earns versus you, you are not on birth control (although I'd like to think he'd put on a condom) and yet you ask why he doesn't want sex with you??

Sorry but I wouldn't either-sorry to be harsh, but I think you may need to look a t your relationship from both sides.

hollylovesbrandon · Mar 10, 2008, 04:10 PM

Looking at the relationship is always good advice.

simoneaugie · Mar 11, 2008, 06:48 AM

I can understand, a sexually frustrated woman throwing in the daughter's behavior remark. And it is not your fault that you make more money. The two of you don't talk about that anymore, anyway.

He may be sensitive and hurt in many ways. Pregnancy is a scary concept, at any age. You are guessing though. Talk about it, gently. Get into counselling. Don't assume. A relationship takes two people, with both of them being responsive. No matter how hurt he may be, you cannot even begin to address that just by being nice, always polite or politically correct.

Doodlebug2008 · Mar 11, 2008, 11:08 AM

I think there are all sorts of problems with this relationship... the most concerning being your boyfriend's 15 year old daughter is having sex... He may well be looking for just a companion rather than a sexual relationship. You'll have to bite the bullet and be forthright about asking him... Good luck!