[Jessie0207]

I have promised my friends I will be moving into a house with them as of August. I have even been looking at houses with them and we have had these plans since December of 2007. They are really counting on my because I have all the furniture and the rent would be cheaper with 3 rather than 2. One of the girls is my best friend and she is really excited that we will be living together because the other girl is always at her boyfriends house and is never home. Well in the past week I have gotten engaged and we plan to be married in January 2009. We think it is best if I move to the town my fiancé lives and I Start a lease in August and he can move in with me in January after we are married. I haven't announced the date of our marriage yet or my plans to move elsewhere, but I am feeling extremely guilty about backing out on my friends... but also extremely happy about getting married. How do I tell my friends this news without them getting upset? Do you think it would be right of them to get upset?

[Fr_Chuck]

Well if you are not going to move in with them, tell them NOW, so they can make other plans

[ts82ce]

"Girls, I've got some bad news and some good news." "The bad news is that I can't move in with you, but because I've decided to move in with......my future husband." I'm really sorry that I've messed up your plans; I hope you can understand".

As you move on in marriage, your single friends may drift apart from you. Don't take it personally. That's just a part of life.

[SJB1701E]

If they are really your friends, they will understand and should be happy for you. Real friends will support you and should be glad you've found happiness rather than being selfish. I know you might feel selfish right now, but you're getting MARRIED, you should be happy and your friends should be happy for you. Break it to them now. Like I said, they should be nothing but happy for you.

[ISneezeFunny]

They may be upset...

But the excitement of the marriage should offset any anger and frustration.

Is it possible you can find a replacement for them?

[CrystalAngel]

They might be upset but you said it yourself, they want you for your furniture and one girl wants you there so she isn't left alone by the girl with the boyfriend. She may be your best friend but she needs to learn to rely on herself and not you. They should be happy that you are getting married, I'm sure if the girl with the boyfriend was getting married she wouldn't be worried about not all moving in together. You haven't let them down maliciously. It may be that once you move and are married the friendships will fade out anyway.
Congratulations on your engagement.