[JackBurton]

I have posted the whole story between my ex-girl and I. So if you are interested, read it and this will make more sense. Jolienoire you do not have to respond since you may have seen this already.

Here is the new situation:

After asking my ex if there was anything more going on between her and her new "friend" and getting several angry "nothing, we're just friends" (I wanted to know because she was dragging me along for 3 weeks and I needed to know so I could move on), Friday I finally got her to admit that she had been fooling around with him this whole time. I got angry because I said that it wasn't fair that she kept me hanging, that I wanted to move on. She started crying and apologizing, saying she is a $hitty person and so on. She said that it is just a "fling" and they both agreed that they just want to be friends with benefits. I was with her for 2 1/2 years and never saw this coming. She hated those kind of people. Anyway, after having a nice long, good conversation with her later that night I thought she would be all right.

So Saturday she calls me and yells at me for not supporting her in the decision that she is making, that she is young and doesn't know what she wants and that if I was her friend I would support her. I told her as a friend that is why I can't sit here and watch her make this decision. She just got mad and basically said she hates people and needs to get away. That really Pissed me off, so I left her a voicemail basically saying "Don't call or text me anymore because I need to move on and I can't sit here and watch you do this. Call me when you grow up and get this out of your system." Well later that night after she listened to the voicemail, she called me and left a me voicemail balling and hyperventilating saying she is all alone and can't imagine me not in her life and that nobody will answer their phones to please call her back. So like a douche bag I drove to her house so I could sit and console her. We then went for a drive for about an hour and a half just talking about how she doesn't know what she should do but she likes this guy and ultimately does not want to stop the "fling" because she's having fun. I then told her "look at you, you really look like you're having fun". She is losing all of her true friends over this and doesn't care. I said "after this fling is over, he is going to go back to his friends and his life isn't going to change. You on the other hand will have nobody there for you, so why can't you see that this in not a good thing?" She said she doesn't know why she is so attached to him but she isn't ready to stop. My response to that was "I'm sorry, but I can't sit here and watch you do this. If you are willing to lose your true friends and your best friend over this, I don't know what to tell you." When I dropped her off at home she said that her mom and her sister wanted to talk to her. I told her to make sure that they know that you are fooling around with this guy so that they could understand why I'm upset so they don't pull that, "if I was a true friend I would stand by her." Now Sunday comes and she is over at his house the entire day and stays over night! I don't understand her. She calls me freaking out, listens to all the advice I give her, gives me a hug and says thank you the night before and then does this $hit. I don't know why it is so hard for me to do NC. You would think by now it would be easy. Will it work? Or will it make her want the other guy more?

[Portrait of Jenni]

Cut her loose. You obviously already know what you need to do. There are some wonderful young women out there who will not treat you that way. As long as you're in this situation, you will not be open for a new romantic relationship.

[talaniman]

Walk away don't look back. Let the other guys have her.