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    LovieMuff5310 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 2, 2008, 03:38 PM
    We have been together for 5 years. Baby time?
    Me and my boyfirend have been together off and on for 5 years. Even when we were broken up, we were still together. Up until this summer, he met a girl and started hanging out with her. at the time i was not on any medication.. and i was not a very pleasent person to be around, he couldnt do anything with out me or without hurting my feelings. i later found out that i was very depressed. i was put on medication and have been fine ever since. we have been back together for 5 months. we are now 23. he works and i work and go to school. alot of our friends have kids and are married but we never really talked about getting married or having kids, we always said we would wait and blah blah blah... well everything has been going great, we couldnt be happier! well i dont want to get hurt again with all the bs that we have been through anf put ourselves through. His family loves me and i love them. they would be so supporative with any decision that we make and anything that we do. Well i want to have a baby, he wouldnt be mad he just dosent think that we are trying, i want to try, its not like im trapping him, i just want to have a baby and start out lives together. my doctor told me that i might have a hard time getting pregnet, but thay also told my mom the same thing and she had no problem either time. do you think i should tell him that i want to instead of just waiting and waiting... just try and be like, we are going to have a baby.. please HELP!!
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    jrebel7 Posts: 1,255, Reputation: 251
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    Mar 3, 2008, 01:04 AM
    Definitely just ask him during a time when things are relaxed and happy between the two of you, if he would like to have a baby with you and if so, when would he think might be a good time to plan toward this. That way you will know what his thinking is without putting pressure on about it.

    Is there a reason you have not chosen marriage with this guy? If your love is strong enough to make a plan and make a baby together, why would you and he not want the have this baby within a marriage? I am just curious about this. Five years together, thinking about making a baby but no talk of showing your commitment to one another by marriage? If I were in your situation, I would at least wonder what his thoughts were on the subject before having a baby together. You state that you both have just said you would wait... what would be the reason not to make this a solid commitment in marriage prior to the arrival of a little one?

    Keep us updated! :) Little ones are precious but they also do at times put a strain on any relationship no matter how solid it is. Lots to think about! Best to you.

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