[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

Well how is he going to live then? By having the wife support him if he is the primary caretaker?

[ScottGem]

Well how is he going to live then? By having the wife support him if he is the primary caretaker?

And why not? If the genders were reversed wouldn't you expect the husband to support the ex wife and his kids?

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

This isn't about gender role right now. I asked the question: What will happen, if she doesn't support him after the divorce?

[ScottGem]

And I said that his efforts should be placed into getting a favorable settlement. At 53, getting a decent job may be difficult, especially if he's been out of the workforce for a while. Yes the possibility exists that he might have to get a job, but that's a decision for the future.

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

I agree!

[katrina27]

In meant that if they separate and the wife gets custody. The father should want to contribute to half of everything his children require. If he retains custody then the wife should pay for her share of the children's care. That is what I meant. I don't believe its nice to sccuse people of being sexist withour knowing facts.

[ScottGem]

Katrina,
I didn't accuse YOU of being sexist, I accused your post of being chauvinistic. Based on what YOU wrote it was. Sure, if the wife gets custody it would be ethical for the father to pay support.

But considering that the wife is probably in a fairly high level career position (evidenced by her salary and their domestic situation), the likelihood of her getting custody is not high.

The problem is not what I said about your post, but in your not clarifying what you meant to say. My comment was valid based on what you wrote.

[ScottGem]

First, may I call your attention to the guidelines for using the comments feature found here:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/feedba...ure-24951.html

At no time did I use the comment feature even though I disagreed with what you were posting. Because what you were posting was your opinion. Your giving me a negative and sarcastic comment was totally uncalled for.

[N0help4u]

You are stay at home dad meaning you devote your time to them. You should consider going for main custody and letting her pay the child support. If she is working all the time the Judge could likely see that she doesn't have the same amount of time to devote to them.

[ldyastrid]

A lot of it has to do with who initiated the divorce - BUT regardless, since you are a stay at home dad, you can get allimony and child support - and even possibly that she has to pay for your attorney - but, that could be contingent on why you are getting a divorce.

You will have to get a job - she will not have to support you - just as if the roles were reversed, an ex-husband is not expected to support the ex-wife - and allimony only lasts for a specific period, and it's typically not enough to really live on without a suplimental income.

It's not automatic that you will get custody of the children. You will need a lawyer - and a good one. You could very easily get screwed.

I know a woman who got a divorce from her husband, kept the house and the kids, there was joint custody so no child support was ordered, but she had to pay allimony for 5 years of $2000 a month.

[happy711]

I'm just curious, but what does your wife do for a living? You do not have to answer because I know it is a personal question but if you feel comfortable answering please do.