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snow patroll · Feb 28, 2008, 09:04 PM

I was wondering- in your terms, when would a rebound relationship start (1 week-3 months?)

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My Ex and I had an intimate relationship for 10 months... we brokeup because we were fighting g in December.
We kept in contact and remained friends. She admitted to missing me.
We hooked up at a party... and she would contact me more from that (4 weeks ago)
Then we went out on a long date- she really liked me after that.. 3 weeks ago
We got into an argument- she went out for vacat for a week... when she came back (now 2 weeks from present) she started talking to a old friend

Within 5 days.. they hookup and become part of a relationship.
I admit jealousy is annoying me, but I am not showing any of it.
Do you think this is a rebound relationship? (after nearly 3 months?)

Ps: the guy she's with also broke up with his girl a few months back because she was cheating on him...

Thanks :))

pasiria · Feb 28, 2008, 09:20 PM

"Can you tell if you're in a rebound relationship?
It's easy enough to tell if you are still on the rebound. Do you:

think of your old partner daily,

still experience deep feelings of pain, regret or angst when you think of them or your relationship,

repeatedly think over one or a few particular issues within that relationship

If you do any of the above then you can pretty safely say you're on the rebound. Your focus is not yet fully enough on your new partner. If this is the case, read about how to get over a breakup."

Rebound Relationships - How to deal with them

friend4u178 · Feb 28, 2008, 10:21 PM

Correct Pasiria

Basically until you are truly over your Ex , chances are your next relationship is fueled by the fact you want to be needed , lack self esteem etc. and will therefore latch onto something which you may not necessarily do otherwise.

pasiria · Feb 28, 2008, 10:34 PM

Lol, I'll be off the subject here, but it's funny to hear my nickname Pasiria. Actually, my big sister made up this name for me when I was 10 and I use to like it. But, it means like a raisen in her imagination. Kids, kids, kids!

friend4u178 · Feb 28, 2008, 10:40 PM

Originally Posted by pasiria

Lol, I'll be off the subject here, but it's funny to hear my nickname Pasiria. Actually, my big sister made up this name for me when I was 10 and I use to like it. But, it means like a raisen in her imagination. Kids, kids, kids!

Well I'd call you something else if you wanted , but it just doesn't sound right :-)

talaniman · Feb 29, 2008, 10:54 AM

Getting into another relationship before your over the ex, is a rebound. I suspect your ex was seeing this guy while you two were dating, by the way. Your just the last to find out, sorry.

snow patroll · Feb 29, 2008, 02:12 PM

Noooo I'm asking if the ex is in a rebound

I already had my rebound.. it was a month after the breakup... I had to break it off with the rebound because it didn't feel right...

I'm asking if you think SHE is rebounded..
Mixed messages- I'm iss you blah blah- then a fight- then a new boyfriend a week later?!
:mad: :confused:

confused25 · Feb 29, 2008, 04:46 PM

Getting into a relationship just a week after going through a break-up is definitely a strange thing. I would like to say it's a rebound, but I think more then anything she was talking to this guy and already had feelings for him before you two even broke up. That's why it was so quick to become a relationship.

If you two had been in a relationship for more then a year, and in about a month or a little less she was already in another relationship then I would say that's a rebound. However, a week is just too short a time, so that is why I assume the worst.

snow patroll · Feb 29, 2008, 08:14 PM

Noo its after 2 months...
Mine was a week and yes we were talking before the breakup,
She went ot with this guy 2 months later (after breaking up from a 10 month relationship)
She sys that its akward with her new boyfriend, because they don't talk much and really don't know each other.

What should I do? We spoke a few days ago bringing up old memories.
Today we spoke.. not much though

s_cianci · Feb 29, 2008, 08:41 PM

Sounds like it to me. Don't be too jealous ; nothing good's going to come out of it. You may be jealous of a neighbor's brand new shining Mercedes Benz but you don't get jealous over a used old heap.

talaniman · Mar 1, 2008, 07:17 AM

Best cut contact with her. Talking to her, especially about her current b/f, does you more harm, than good. It's a sure fire way to be confused ,and bring out questions, that have no answers.