[chamberlainJohn]

Hello . I married my wife in the Ukraine (Kharkiv) 18 months ago. I am a UK resident and she a Ukrainian resident. After another 6 months , she will be able to obtain an ' indefinite leave to say Visa' which would entitle her to remain in the UK for as long#g as she wishes. From the time she arrived to live here with me in England, I have always felt sometime was not quite right. I enclosed a letter she wrote to her son complaining that I was treating her bad, and she just need to suffer until she gets the Visa to remain. I spoke to her about the letter and she told me it was a silly letter she wrote she she was in a bad mood. Then although she was clear she would not wish to work while my wife here in the UK, she changed and is working all the hours made, and sending back most of the cash back to her family, who we had be supporting with my income. Then a year ago she told me she own lots (5000 do#llars to various credit cards in the Ukraine )of money and if I try to not give her /help her get the visit after the 2 years is up she will leave me and work illegally and leave me and hide in the illegal work force. I feel I have been part of a scam. I want to prepare myself so she will not accuse him of harming her ( I have never laid a hand on her ) and because I still love her ( love in Blind , and I hope each day she is misunderstood by me). I feel I need some paperwork ready for a quick summary to show the Visa office in case it is obviously a scam. What can anyone suggest I do *** email deleted for posters protection FC***

[N0help4u]

Can you talk to the visa officer about all your options?
Even though you love her now when she gets her permanent residency and leaves you you will wish you hadn't let yourself be taken advantage of. Also being married you could be liable to pay her debts so if she up and leaves you they may try to come after you if you have any joint accounts.
I think you should check into the possibility of getting an annulment.

[Fr_Chuck]

Lets look at it as any marrieage, forget the Ukraine or the fact she was sort of a mail order bride most likely. It is possible she has debts to the people that were putting her on the "market" to find a husband, or she is helping her family there.

But lets look at the seroius issue, her letter home, and most important she is saying that if you don't pay, she will leave,

Help her pack, keep most of your personal money in an account without her name. ** if you want, ask her to prove the debts, copies of bills and so on.

[shellyjo68]

Contact an attorney TODAY

[N0help4u]

I agree with Fr_Chuck refuse to give her any more money other than daily expenses -food!
When she gets tired of it help her pack her bags.