[blitzace]

Before I say anything else, I'm going to say lately it hurts like a hell, but I have been going througth with No Contact rule (really didn't expect to feel this miserable) but my friend is in the same boat as I was in but decided to take a different approach reading ebooks that supposedly guarantees to get girlfriends back, is that stuff really useful or just some writer trying to make a quick buck?

[JBeaucaire]

Sounds like you know the answer.

[Ash123]

Read my guide below.

And remember - when someone breaks up - they have been thinking about it a while.

So, take a step back and think about what YOU want to do - while leaving them ALONE.

The universe will take care of who comes next - even if it's your... EX!

[youcantstop48]

Dude your getting robbed by buying this stuff, no book is going to help you get her back, the book can't read her mind and tell her too do stuff, so give it more time!!

[ISneezeFunny]

Oh yeah, I read one of those... it's right next to "how to win the lottery" and "raise the dead in 7 easy steps" books.

... all jokes aside, there's nothing in the world that will tell you how to change someone's mind about something. There are some things you can do to better your odds... but to "win" them back... sorry.

To better the odds...

Read the 2 stickies on the relationship forum
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Come here and vent
Repeat

[jolienoire]

before i say anything else, im going to say lately it hurts like a hell, but i have been going througth with No Contact rule (really didnt expect to feel this miserable) but my friend is in the same boat as i was in but decided to take a different approach reading ebooks that supposedly guarantees to get girlfriends back, is that stuff really useful or just some writer trying to make a quick buck?

Answers are not in a book but in actions, If someone doesn't want to be with you... there will be nothing... Nothing that will change that... so how to get her back 101 is not the book you should be investing in but perhaps... invest in yourself improvement.. and how to get yourself back on track after a breakup,, and you know the best part.. about it it will cost happiness, and that is a price worth paying... and this is priceless...

[blitzace]

Thanks guys just wondering, this NC crap is killing the hell out of me but I know if I try to work out things with her again, all that's going to happen is imma catch the same old feelings all over again and have to start NC from the start once again, but still fighting the urge is hard as hell especially since its not one of those relationships when I annoy the hell out of the girl but rather her still trying to keep me close

[youcantstop48]

Oh its going to be hard, you need to find something to take your mind of off it! I know its easier said than done

[Ash123]

thanks guys just wondering, this NC crap is killing the hell out of me but i know if i try to work out things with her again, all thats gonna happen is imma catch the same old feelings all over again and have to start NC from the start once again, but still fighting the urge is hard as hell especially since its not one of those relationships when i annoy the hell out of the girl but rather her still trying to keep me close

It's like detoxing... your body is addicted to "heroin" or in this case - dopamine and endorphins released predictably in a relationship. It'll get WORSE before it gets better and then BOOM - one day it'll get better - like magic.. but only after it gets worse and you power through the craving stages.

Hang in there and come to AMHD when weakened. :cool:

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[talaniman]

before i say anything else, im going to say lately it hurts like a hell, but i have been going througth with No Contact rule (really didnt expect to feel this miserable) but my friend is in the same boat as i was in but decided to take a different approach reading ebooks that supposedly guarantees to get girlfriends back, is that stuff really useful or just some writer trying to make a quick buck?

Let us know who feels better in 6 months.

[blitzace]

Anbody else get that annoying feeling of constantly wanting them to call even though u know good and well u not going to pick up even if they do?

[blitzace]

OK, I'm still doing OK with NC so far, I can still manage not to call, and to my advantage, I lost my cell, so she no longer has my number and she deleted the house once when I did get the new cell in the first place. My problem is she's always on the top of my mind regardless, how do you guys function on a day to day basis when you always have the thought of someone lingering in your head, whether it be school, work or anything else. I don't even think I'm 100% socially right now when it comes to friends and especially when talking to other girls.

[Romefalls19]

I used the gym as an outlet, my whole motivation originally was to prove to her that she is dating a 250lb guy who doesn't go to the gym, didn't graduate college or anything.. So I said, well now you gave up a guy who works out a lot, in great shape and going ahead with his life. So ha.. But now I just love the way I feel about myself knowing I'm in better shape. But she still plagues my mind a lot, but it does get easier

[talaniman]

If you put as much thought and action into making your life better, there would be little time to think of her. When she pops in your mind, get get up and do something for yourself, polish Sunday shoes or clean the nike's. Anything but sit and dwell on the past, and never feel sorry for yourself. As your coping skills get better, the pain will be less.

[duck22]

oh yeah, I read one of those...it's right next to "how to win the lottery" and "raise the dead in 7 easy steps" books.

...all jokes aside, there's nothing in the world that will tell you how to change someone's mind about something. there are some things you can do to better your odds...but to "win" them back...sorry.

to better the odds...

read the 2 stickies on the relationship forum
cry
come here and vent
repeat

At some point you need to break the cycle. Also, talaniman's advice above is very truthful. Focus your energy on something productive instead of dwelling on the past and feeling sorry for yourself. When you do this it helps clear your mind and lets your move on.

I recommend joining a gym if you don't already and spend some time there. It forced me to start eating right again and makes it easier to fall asleep at night. Also, once you begin seeing results you should start feeling much better about yourself and it will boost your confidence.

[blitzace]

Just felt like saying I still feel like crap but it seems to be a little more bearable than it was before, I can actually think more about myself than the situation lol. I never knew people you never actually met could be so encouraging.

[blitzace]

Hey guys... still doing NC, but its starting to feel worse rather than better, I actually dialed him number but stopped myself from actually entering in the call, any support would be nice..

[ISneezeFunny]

Then I must ask... what have you done for yourself lately? What have you done to keep yourself busy?

Have you done anything that you truly enjoy doing.. Or have you religiously been reminiscing and thinking about the past... and thinking "what ifs..." and looking up Facebook and myspaces?

[talaniman]

Click on the links in my signature, and let me know if they apply to your situation. They are free.

[Witchywoman1212]

[QUOTE=ISneezeFunny]oh yeah, I read one of those... it's right next to "how to win the lottery" and "raise the dead in 7 easy steps" books.

... all jokes aside, there's nothing in the world that will tell you how to change someone's mind about something. There are some things you can do to better your odds... but to "win" them back... sorry.

To better the odds...

Read the 2 stickies on the relationship forum
Cry
Come here and vent


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