[sirjames]

Well there is this female who I really love we were best and close friends until a lot of things happen on her side of behalf last year and it really took her down for a count for a min but I always been on her side but the killing part about it was it felt like she was not caring more about me each month passes or felt like she didn't wanted to express herself each time we talk on the phone... its been a year and half we know each other.. I was lost and confuse at the same time didn't know what to do till one day I call a psychic hotline and a woman who convence me that my friend had no feelings for me and just there to bring me down of stress or care less about how I feel about her... so the psychic told me to stop calling her and things will be better and she will start to come back loving me for who I am... got to the point my friend haven't heard from me last month till I call and she was really piss off but the whole thing about it is she didn't know why I haven't been calling her but she been texting my phone back worrying about me... but once I call this psychic again she got to the point where she said we will get into a relationship in Feb. and through out the year... well my friend told me she didn't want nothing to do with me and felt like I never wanted her in my life again but she has another shoulder to lean on that really tore my whole world up.. and I'm starting to feel this psychic isn't the real thing I would seem to see... so now I'm on the edge of losing a good friend but realizing that it seems she did had feelings for me but didn't wanted to rush into having her heart hurt.. its a painful thing for me and what should I do... my birthday is 07/12/83 and hers is 4/5/85

[N0help4u]

The psychic had no business telling you to not talk to her.
Hopefully you learned never to let a psychic determine your decisions.
One thing about some psychics when they don't have a clue is they can tell you anything they want like you are to go to Florida next month when maybe you should have stayed home but you are none the wiser what may have been your future had you not gone to Florida.

All you can do is try and patch things up with her and hope she responds positively, but if she is seeing someone else you might have to back off this time.

Astrologically your signs
She wants stability and seeks communication as a solid relationship
You are more the adventure seeker
You would have to make it work

Numerologically Life Path #
YOU: FOURS seek security. Home is their haven. They are usually very cerebral and need to find ways to relax their minds. Like NIKE, "Just Do It." Otherwise, great ideas live and die in their heads.The 4s like to be organized and to put things back in their " proper place". If their home environment appears sloppy and unkempt , that is a sign that the 4 Life Path person is not doing well.

HER: FIVES seek freedom, fun, adventure. If they do not live the adventure, their lives become way too dramatic. They are the natural detectives and celebrators of life (holidays are usually their specialty). 5s have a hard time settling down and have a fear of being trapped or smothered in a relationship.

It is possible you could balance each other with the stability/individuality
But it requires communication and enthusiasm from you.

[sirjames]

Its really been eating me inside and the part about it is I don't know if she would ever get back talking the way we used to talk again but the more to it is how can I start on telling her of what's been really going on and I want her in my life and hope that we be togther

[N0help4u]

Tell her you were confused and not sure how to approach things, that you were afraid of pushing for more than she might have been ready for and you didn't know if you would have scared her away so you backed off not knowing. Now you have had time to think about things and realize how much she means to you... pour out your heart, at this point what do you have to lose?

[sirjames]

I feel a little better now that I'm talking to you and I'm really want to thank you for answering my problems and I just hope for the best that she will understand where I'm coming from and never again will go on a phone psychic hotline again and follow my heart .but the hard part is should I text her phone more or call her or email her ?

[N0help4u]

Call her or talk to her when you see her again. Tell her that you messed things up and you want to make things up to her if she will give you another chance.

[sirjames]

But are there real psychics out there reather then the ones on the phone scaming people

[N0help4u]

You don't need a psychic learn to follow your heart and learn to listen to your inner voice.
Often when you want to do something you will feel a hesitation or a sinking feeling in your spirit to warn you to stop and think about it.
Often even a good psychic will tell you something just to sound like they know what they are talking about but it isn't necessarily what you should have done.
Like they can say they see you buying some real estate in the near future.
They didn't tell you that the neighborhood would one day be full of crime.
OR you think gee a year has past and I haven't bought my house yet so you hurry and buy the wrong house.

[talaniman]

Before you pour out your heart, give yourself a chance for the shock and emotion to die down. However long that takes is up to you, but you need to be on a solid emotional ground to approach this in a positive way, and the best way is to be calm, and in control of yourself. I suspect you have a lot invested in her, and that may not be healthy, or attractive, as you appear to need her to make you happy. Give it time to get your confidence, and self esteem back, before you try getting her back.

Well my friend told me she didn't want nothing to do with me and felt like I never wanted her in my life again but she has another shoulder to lean on that really tore my whole world up.

Doesn't sound like there is much of a point to trying to talk to her. So get your act together first, and when your happy with yourself again, then you can consider your next step.

[N0help4u]

Very true TAL

Got to spread the rep

[sirjames]

That is true but that part about her saying she got another shoulder to lean on that really got to me I don't know if she did that to make me mad or just to say she about to move on with her life... in a way I can feel she is confuse and at the same time wondering what the hell was going on.. its hard to find out ways to contact her more and I'm starting to feel really mess up about it

[talaniman]

I'm starting to feel really mess up about it

She may not love you any more but you must love yourself enough to make yourself happy. This is the perfect time to start putting yourself first.