[PrttyBrownEyez21]

What do you mean don't step in too deep?what do you mean you don't trust him?what about his motives should I doubt

[talaniman]

Sorry, he is just not forthcoming with his feelings, and I think until he is, you should be cautious, because I would hate to see you hurt. I also think you care more than he does, and he knows this, so why not tell you, how he feels? I would, and have always done so. That's one reason why I can't really trust him, as I think he likes your attention, but is not returning it the way you are. Another reason, just me being a parent, being on restrictions by his parents so much is sort of a red flag, and know for sure there may be something about that that he isn't telling. What kind of friends does he hang with? My point is what kind of guy shows physical attention to a female, but she dooesn't know if they have a relationship or not?? If that makes sense. What do you think?? Am I way off?

[Silent Breeze]

Its been so long since I've last posted and I apologize. Seems things changed and things improved since I last opened this site, many new questions rose as well.
The biggest stepback in your story Prettybrowneyes is that when you asked him to hang out together he didn't. I don't know about you but I am the kind of person who doesn't like to ask he same question twice.
He may not be as sweet as he seems just as Talaniman expects, but he may also have strict parents.
He may think of you a close friend and hugs you, but he also may think you are just some girl he can melt away with a hug.
Now lets talk about each point. These days there aren't many strict parents, most parents are clueless as to what their children are doing. Do you know why he is getting grounded so much? This time its about math, but what about all the other times? I don't think they'll ground him from the first time, so I think you have to figure out what he's been doing to get himself into this much trouble with his parents. So I may be getting back to Talaniman's point.
Personally, now that he has regected your invitation whether it was literally or not. I said before that since you asked him the first time don't ask him anoher time. I don't know if Im too late but I don't thin its very wise to send him a Valentine's day card. Lets see what he does. Don't be too obvious, don't let him know you like him. Let him be dying to know whether you like him or not, not the other way around.
I hope I didn't cause you too much confusion.
Goodluck

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

He knows that I like him,I thought we had established that,but yea he's known for awhile.I haven't asked him to hang out that much,its only been like twice.when he was on punishment,it was because his parents caught him downloading music.I mean id think he's a complete angel but he's not a bad guy either.I don't think he's using me or sending me mixed signals or anything because he wouldve said something by now.cuz there was this girl who liked him and she got mad at him because he said she thought he liked her and he said he doesn't.yesterday I didn't send him a valentines day card.. I sent him a bundle of love thing,because our school does this thing called lovefest where you can send your friends and significant others stuff.the bundle of love ending up coming with a teddy bear.yesterday I saw him walking in the hall with the bear sitting on his shoulder and he said the bear was "our son."

[talaniman]

My hope is your enjoying yourself, but being smart, and not get to carried away with these intense feeling. Your supposed to be happy, and enjoy the experience. Can you imagine what I put my own daughter through at your age?? LOL, Dads can't help it, so forgive me if I sound to strict, and worrisome about this fellow.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Thanks for your concern,parents have every rite to be that way I think. I mean I am enjoying myself but at times I get confused about him.I want to know where we stand now,because we're better friends now then when he first found out I liked him and he also said he didn't like anyone then,but I don't know if anything has changed.one of my bestfriends thinks that I should ask him if he likes me now because she doesn't want him to play me by flirting w me and stuff and by not asking me out yet.I mean I honestly want to know but at the same time I don't necessarily want to be the one to ask him because I Don't want to get hurt,u know.so what should I do?because as I've said before,I am shy person, so any ideas?also do guys usually take forever to ask someone out or no?

[talaniman]

Most guys are as scared, and shy as you are. We just don't like to show it.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

So do u think that's what he's doing?

[talaniman]

I honestly don't know, I know only what you tell me, but if you weren't so shy, you would ask him. (my wife told me to tell you that) so maybe its time to overcome the shyness, and ask him what's up?? We can go crazy assuming, guessing, and wondering about the feelings of others, or we could just ask what's on our minds, and know for sure how they feel. I know for a fact, fear prevents us from many things we need to do, and it takes courage to overcome it. My wife also says, you will feel so much better overcoming your shyness, and I believe her, so should you.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

That was very deep and insightful.thanks.I will take that into consideration.I agree with your wife.. u married a smart woman lol

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

OK so today my day wasn't too good.first I found out that this guy I've been talking about only likes me as a friend and then I ended up failing my driver license test.so what am supposed to do now?I mean I can't just stop liking him rite off the bat.. I mean I do still like him, but you can't make someone like u.. they have to in their own time.

[talaniman]

Sorry it didn't work the way you wanted, but now you know where you stand and can focus on other things, such as passing the driving class, and MATH! Don't sress over him as there will be others to take your attentions. Just make the adjustments. Good luck and let us know how things turn out. The wife says, something better will come along, so don't waste a lot of time getting over this guy, and she sends hugs.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Yea at least now I know where I stand... but I hope that doesn't ruin our friendship.. because today we didn't talk at all.but anyway... thanks and tell your wife I said thanks too.

[xxxlovecanhurtxxx]

Go up to him and say if you like me tell me. If you don't stop teasing me.

I have been there before and it hurts worse than him not liking you trust me.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

My friend asked him and he said he only liked me as a friend.. but now since then we haven't talked.. idk why but we haven't.. idk.. I don't get it.

[talaniman]

Don't let it bother you, as he may be a little embarrassed to know how you feel. Give it some time, and let the emotional dust settle.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Be embarrassed how... why would be embarrassed

[talaniman]

Because he is a young guy, that has it brought to his attention, that someone likes him, and he doesn't feel the same way, for all the hugs and stuff. So its natural he back off, and avoid you. I would, and have done the same at his age. He is the one to answer for his actions though, as any one else, me included can only speculate and assume, and be 100% wrong. OUCH!!

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Yea I get what your saying.actually.. yesterday.. we did talk and stuff.. so I guess us not talking was a coincidence and because of Monday

[talaniman]

Now I am curious, and NOSEY, what did you talk about??