[lonleyinamherst]

My boyfriend and I recently broke up, the final break.

We were having troubles regarding trust, I behaved in a way to loose his trust.
We broke up for about a week, and he came to me and said he never wanted to break up in the first place, but was at a loss to do. So we decided to work things out, without a commitment, while I built his trust.

Things were going well... for about 2 weeks. I bought us promise rings for valentines day- to show my promise and fidelity to him. We celebrated on Tuesday, I took him out to his favorite breakfast joint and we slept in all afternoon.

Then...

That evening he decided he had to leave me. He decided he had to be alone.

We talked about this yesterday. And, the thing is he doesn't just want to be alone- but he is not sure it will work out with us.

We had some very meaningful and deep talks. He wants to be along to sort of wallow in his hurt. I know this means that he will blow things even more out of proportion than they have been.

I tried to remind him of all the positive thing in out relationship, and for this one slip I had- I am a very trustworthy person. About how much we mean to one another.

He admits he still loves me. There is a part of him that still wants to be with me. He misses me.

I could not be more petrified that he won't come back to me. It's hard to convey how strong we are, and how important we are to one another. We've been together for 2.5 years. I honestly think he is the one, and that we belong together.

What can I do to secure a future with him?

Guys? What does he need? What can I do to get him back.

I am so desperate for advice. I'm a wreck. I can't function without you. My heart is beyond broken.

PLEASE HELP!

[talaniman]

It's called, consequenses for your actions ,as you admit here, and in your other post, to cheating on him twice, with an ex. You may be in a hurry to bury the past, and move on, but its not that easy to be hurt in that way, and just forgive someone, no matter all the good times. It will take a very long time, and a lot of work on your part, to repair the hurt, and trust you again, and that's only if he chooses to do so. His choice, and all the begging, and pleading, can't change that. Sorry, as I have said before, give him time and space to work it out, without you pressuring him. If he chooses to come back, you can work together, if not, I hope you learned something from this experience.

[lonleyinamherst]

I only have to say, I didn't "cheat" on him twice. It was more that I had a relationship with an ex that's was (granted) inappropriate.

[JBeaucaire]

Tal is right. At this point you have to start completely over. Establish a whole new trust base. That's another 6 months of fidelity and he may still may never trust you fully again.

This is the crop you planted, so it's not a big surprise, is it? Nobody has a magic trick to make him just "get over it". Except maybe him.