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musiclover23 · Feb 15, 2008, 03:03 PM

I met a guy on the internet about four months ago, we've been exchanging messages and decided to meet next month. I've already told him I'm a virgin.

Today I wrote that I am really really inexperienced and haven't even french kissed a guy. That I've just rejected everyone who has wanted to go further than kissing. Guess it's because I haven't felt enough attraction before.

Anyway, do men want that a woman tells you she's really inexperienced and haven't even kissed anyone before (if that's the case)? Or would you prefer that she just didn't say anything?

Being really inexperienced... is that a turn-off or a turn-on for men? Or neither?

By the way, I'm 23 and I haven't done anything yet simply cause I haven't felt ready

KISS · Feb 15, 2008, 04:56 PM

This probably should be a poll. It would not bother me one way or the other.

mikezapwnzor · Feb 15, 2008, 05:29 PM

It depends on what the guy likes. A lot of the times the man may like this, thinking that he can *teach* you all kinds of new things, and have lots of fun doing it. Other men might say that they like their women ready to go and don't want to explain a thing. Depends on the man's opinion.

smoothy · Feb 19, 2008, 12:31 PM

It has its good and bad sides... with an open minded inexperienced wife you can learn everything the way he likes it. Down side is that takes a LOT of time.

But then the experienced woman already knows this stuff, but may have picked up bad habits you really dislike.

Two sides of the same coin. But what really matters most is the woman and her attitude towards things.

BMI · Feb 19, 2008, 12:42 PM

Very good question.

Most men are attracted to the virgin, its been around for centuries (kings offering virgins to knights and so on). A guy likes a virsin because we think (not all) that once you havesex with a virgin you will always be remebered as that guy, nobody else can do what you've done and the girl will remember you for a lifetime. Also the whole innocent thing makes it very appealing and sexual for a guy.

The downside of being inexperienced is the learning curve involved, some guys like certain things and would like to jump right in. An inexperienced girl would have to take some time to be able to please the man in certain ways, the whole teeth, it hurts, etc,etc. SORRY if I'm being too blunt here.

So really its up to the guy, like all the above have mentioned. It has it's turn on's and turn off's but in the grand scheme of things, if he likes you he likes you and it won't make much difference.

Synnen · Feb 19, 2008, 01:47 PM

And here I thought men liked virgins because there was nothing and no one else to measure up to!

smoothy · Feb 19, 2008, 01:56 PM

Originally Posted by Synnen

And here I thought men liked virgins because there was nothing and no one else to measure up to!

Mostly by guys that know they suck in bed and are afraid of a woman that knows the difference.

But a 25 year old virgin can have a stronger strength of character than a 25 year old that's already been with 25 men.

Sleeping around is easy. Not sleeping around by choice is much harder.

BMI · Feb 19, 2008, 01:57 PM

Lol... never considered that one Synnen:) Guess men are more complicated thanmany may think... then again...

Choux · Feb 20, 2008, 01:22 PM

It is my opinion that most confident, mature men want a woman who has sexual experience. Not too many want to deal with all the potential drama of dealing with deflowering a virgin girl and all her romantic misconceptions about human sexuality. :)

smoothy · Feb 20, 2008, 01:24 PM

Originally Posted by Choux

It is my opinion that most confident, mature men want a woman who has sexual experience. Not too many want to deal with all the potential drama of dealing with deflowering a virgin girl and all her romantic misconceptions about human sexuality. :)

Yeah... dealing with that can be a royal pain. Can't say I have spent much time doing that. Only 2 or 3 times, based on what they said, I suspected it was less than that. Having fun with a woman that knows what fun is definitely is better than begging and pleading for something from an inexperienced girl/woman. Trust me that I've seen enough experienced women with some real problems from being sexually repressed. Was an odd combination. They were not afraid to get in bed... but their idea of sex was them on their back with their legs spread. No oral... no anal... just missionary. I wonder if they ever progressed past that one thing in the decades since.

Yeah they had experience... but aren't what I would lke ot consider experienced nor and I sure you would either Choux. I think that's a reason why my marriage is as good as it is. My wife's "taste for adventure" is about as good as my own. Why would I be inclined to "explore" elsewhere.