[dontgetit]

I just don't understand guys at all. First off I have dated this guy for almost 3 years now and about 3 months ago we told each other stuff that had happened in the past. He had cheated on me with 3 girls.. but it came out to only 4 times and I cheated on him with one guy 4 times. So he calles it equal. But mine is worse because I liked the other guy. Well I was in some down time for about 3 weeks and my man was there for me for 2 weeks the 3rd week he was being rude and everything.. well one thing went to another and I cheated on him again with the same guy. I felt really bad about it and I told him about it and that I was sorry. He was really upset and he told me he would have to learn to trust me. Which I understand because I didn't want that to happen but it did. But he wants me to call him when I do something and not be around guys and not go to parties and all this stuff. Well I told him that he couldn't hang out with girls then. And he said it didn't matter because now he is in love with me and he would never cheat, so he has his friends over like every night and girls always come over and I am never aloud to hang out with him and them, we only hang out just us two.. so how do I get him to trust me again and that I would like to hang out with him and his friends and that if I have rules he has to also.. its not I do what I want and control you thing? Although he claims that's not it at all? Help me please I love him but I hate the way he is around his friends!?

[mtybaldone]

Hey,
You guys have got some issues here. It's hard to build trust when you keep breaking it. You need to start back at square one and just build it day-by-day. After a few months of not cheating on him, maybe then he will start to trust you again.
As far as he and his friends, it sounds like he is a bit ashamed of you and that maybe why he doesn't want you around while his friends are there. Or maybe they are giving him a hard time for still liking you and he is afraid they will be mean to you if you are around. I don't know.
Bottom line, you can't cheat on someone who says he loves you and then expect him to act normal. You've just broken the guy's heart and destroted his trust. You're lucky he still talks to you at all.