[goldxfish]

I am new to this site. But I need advice from anyone that can help. I recently split with my boyfriend of 6 years. We have a 4 month old daughter together. We broke up because he is a very violent man. He would hit me and call me a f***en B**ch all the time. But I know he loves our daughter and would never hurt her. I lived with him after I had the baby. But the other day I just couldn't take his abuse anymore and went to my moms house with the baby. 3 days later he comes barging into my moms house and takes her away. He took her at night time too. He wasn't going to put a blanket around her or put her in a baby seat. My mom had to run after him to give him blankets and the car seat. I don't want to take him to court, but I might have to. My question is would they give me custody of her? I am currently unemployed with no income. I live in Los Angeles. He has a Dr. jeckle/Ms.hyde personality. So no one would ever believe he was abusive. Sometimes when he gets angry he would trash the entire room. Then he would pull my hair and kick me. But he made sure not to leave a bruise on me. I was always fearful of him, but always forgave him because I thought he would change. I feel so alone because his family will help him get custody. I am a good mother. I stay up all night to take care of her while he gets to sleep. I take her to her doctor appointments. He just always stays home. He doesnt't even know how to take care of her. His mom helps him with the baby. What should I do? I am crying all night because I miss my baby. This will be my first night without her. If I tried to get her back, he wouldn't even let me in the house. I am too scared to even see him. I don't know what to do. Can anyone help me? Do I need a lawyer. I can't afford one though. HELP! =(

[fredg]

Hi,
I am so sorry to read this. I am sure you will get some good answers for others.
First, I would call your local Police Department. Tell them what has happened, and see if they can help getting your baby back.
Then, you really need a lawyer. But, if you can't afford one, as you say, then you need to go to your local Court House, to the Court Clerk's Office, and talk with them about a "Restraining Order", or "Peace Bond" against your boyfriend. Also, talk with the Police about one, and they can give you some good advise about what to do.
Call the Police.
I do wish you the very best of luck.

[Fr_Chuck]

What part of this is an abusive man and is dangerous to you and to the baby do you not understand. And how can you still "love" him and talk good about him.

1. call the police and file charges on him for abuse
2. get a restraining order to keep him away from you, the baby and your mother
3. hire an attorney, sue for custody and child support.
4 and in the end, how did he "take her" in most cases in mothers I know the ex would be dead on the floor or in handcuffs for breaking and entering if they came and tried to take their baby.

Go and get your baby back also comes to mind

[nwsflash]

1. Call the police and file charges on him for abuse
2. get a restraining order to keep him away from you, the baby and your mother
3. hire an attorney, sue for custody and child support.
4 and in the end, how did he "take her" in most cases in mothers I know the ex would be dead on the floor or in handcuffs for breaking and entering if they came and tried to take their baby.

Go and get your baby back also comes to mind
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I really don't think anything else needs adding to that list... Get you child ASAP

[JoeCanada76]

You said he would never hurt his child. I do not believe that. If he is violent with you, he is violent with others. If he gets so angrily so easily who knows what he could do with your child. All of the other posts have great detail of what can be done to help you and your child. Hope everybody has given you enough help to change the outcome of what is happening with you at this time.

Joe

[nwsflash]

You said he would never hurt his child. I do not believe that. If he is violent with you, he is violent with others. If he gets so angrily so easily who knows what he could do with your child.

Violent people in this way have a problem and need to seek special help so they can cure the anger that builds up inside them... Your child is not safe with a violent person as a mother you should know this better then anybody else could.

Call the police ASAP and file charges its safer for you and your family in the long run...