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    lovestruck07 Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 7, 2008, 08:28 AM
    Dealing with hearbreak :(
    My boyfriend and I have been on and off for about a year and a half the first time we broke it was cause he said he lost feelings for me and wanted to be single, we recently broke up again for the same reason. However our relationship this time around was different he was always calling me and telling me how much he loves me. He is also going through depression and is taking pills to help him but he doesn't seem like himself, he always has mood swings and doesn't really want to do anything. I'm really heartbroken that we broke up especially because I really thought he loved me. The day after we broke up he kept texting me and calling me telling me he loves me and how I'm the perfect girl for him but didn't ask to get back with me so we decided to stay friends. Should I give him time and blame it on the depression and the mood swings or should I just lose contact with him completely? I really need advice I'm so lost.
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    Feb 7, 2008, 09:24 AM
    I think you need to talk to him.tell him excactly that.because the one biggest mistake I made was not talking to him first.make sure he knows.and hopefully that helps some.I don't really know much other than that, cause as you can see, I'm pretty lost myself.
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    Feb 7, 2008, 12:21 PM
    Sorry dear, but his problems are beyond your help, as you have no experience in what he is going through, and may actually make things worse, just by not knowing what's going on with him, and his meds, so leave him alone, except as a friend.
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    Feb 7, 2008, 04:05 PM
    I thik that your life will get messed up by him is you was to stay with himsorry but let him go if I was like him I would hope you would under stand but if I brok up with you then it would be over sorry to say that though
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    Feb 8, 2008, 03:09 AM
    The bottom line is, if he wanted to be with you, he would be with you now. Depression is possibly a cause of some of his indecision, but the fact still remains that a man would move mountains to be with the woman he loves.

    Don't chase him, and don't answer his calls or reply to his texts. When you don't respond to him and get on with life, you are sending him a clear message that you are not going to stand by and be his 'option', and that you are not going to waste your time waiting for a guy who can't make his mind up.

    This will, at the very least, restore your dignity, so make him miss you! :)
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