[silverskater]

Well I'm a nice quite guy maybe too quite... but whenever I'm talking to a girl I think she lose interest in me because I'm not exciting enough... and then I get mad at myself because I can't be the guy they want... anytime I'm around girls I just clam... after a while they would just stop talking to me all together... I think because I boar them... Idk what to talk to a girl about... but back to the question I ask... I think girls like guys to be jerks to them because they don't give nice guys like me a chance... so please help me... how can I be more comfortable to start a conversation with a girl and keep her talking to me... please

[daizeebug]

K first of all girls do not jerks! I find it uber-hot when I see a guy respect girls. It sounds like what you need to work on is not becoming a "jerk" but being more outgoing. And try being confident when you talk to girls and they'll probably notice and be more interested in you. And I'm glad to hear there's at least one more nice guy out there, some girl will really appreciate that.

[NeedKarma]

I think girls with low self-esteem like jerks.

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

Your' explanation as to why girls likes guys to be jerks doesn't make sense. Quote: 'I think girls like guys to be jerks to them because they don't give nice guys like me a chance'

I don't know one girl that likes guys that are jerks and if they do then they have some issues with themselves ie: insecure. Do you want a girl like that? Girls do not like to be:

Abused
Hung up on
Yelled at
Called names
Ignored
Cheated on
Disrespected

Catch my drift? That is what being a jerk is and if you are NONE of that, then you are what a lot of girls are looking for. You say girls don't give you a chance? What about giving yourself a chance? I'm sure you know how to keep a girl interested. If you talk about yourself all the time and don't give her a little edge wise, then she will leave. If you stare at her boobs the whole time you two are conversing then yes, she will get the wrong impression. Get out of the shy world that you are in, stop complaining and do something about it!

[kitten94515]

okay omg, I hate this question so much.
when I really liked this guy.. okay me and him were talking and he was like, I think being a jerk to a girl gets girls. And I was like what do u mean "gets girls" and he was like, to like me. And okay so from my conclusion. No respect for a girl is so adorable that you will get girls or w.e whenever u want. U have to just be nice which u say your alrady doing. Don't be a jerk or u will things up.


oh and I don't know if u have heard this before, but there is a saying that I have hear.
"the bigger jerk a guy is to a girl, the bigger his d*ck is."
this is completely not true. [lol] do not follow it. ^^
[: hope I helped.

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

Haha funny quote... now that I think about it maybe that is right...

[kitten94515]

Lmao.
I've heard that a million times but I'm not sure if its true.
But I don't like jerks so. Lol.

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

lmao.
ive heard that a million times but im not sure if its true.
but i dont like jerks so. lol.

No girl wants to be with a jerk but for some reason a lot end up with them.

... I still consider that statement to be true hehe... JK!

[ISneezeFunny]

It's guys who know WHEN to be a jerk that gets girls.

... now by WHEN to be a jerk, I don't EVER mean treating a girl with disrespect or being mean to her or hurting her in any way shape or form. However, don't give in to everything she says. Disagree with her every now and then, and stand up for yourself.

Too many nice guys get burned as they'll pretty much give up a kidney for the happiness of their girls, and at first, it's sweet... but it does get boring.

I'm a jerk. People compare me to dr. house (from house md) all the time. Girls like it.

... then they realize I actually AM a huge jerk... then they don't like it so much.

[kitten94515]

Well disagreeing and then say laughing about it, isn't considered a jerk.

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

I have to agree with Kitten.

Isneezefunny, no girl likes a guy no matter what kind of jerk he is labeled.

It's the bad-a$$ attitude that women like. I know I like a bad-a$$ boyfriend but I also want him to respect me.

[ISneezeFunny]

I completely agree that he should respect you. It's that girls are turned off by guys who are pretty much being leashed + walked. You can respect the girl while having your own opinions and your own likes/dislikes.

It's those guys who are "TOO" nice that get thrown about.

[topladyj]

Have confidence in yourself. And sometimes if you play hard to get, they will run your way. Don't do it all the time though otherwise they might think you really don't like them. You have to hold your head up, and think to yourself you are the . Don't be snuddy though. But if you show your confidence and that you have great self esteem most people will pick up on that. Regardless if love comes, at least you got your crap together.

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

Right on Isneezefunny...

Most women I know like to feel secure with their man. I wouldn't want my guy slobering all over me constantely that's for damn sure.

I wonder why it's the 'nice' guy that finishes last or gets thrown out? Isn't that what every woman wants? Apparentely not. What a good question to think about though.

Like I said... bad-a$$

[GonnaGoThereOneDay]

okay well I think its very cute when a guy Isn't a "jerk"



my last boyfriend was a major jerk . I thought it was kind of cute at first because the challenge . But then when he takes to too far .

(aka. What they said above)


that's what turns a girl off majorly. I think girls like the challenge of being the one that the jerk isn't a jerk too.. understand ?


but just don't agree with everything . But don't take her ideas and make them "stupid and insult her feelings/ideas"




good luck =]
hope my advice helps !