[inertiatic_esp]

Ok,
A few months ago, I began talking to someone on the internet whom I kind of knew in high school. As it turns out, this girl is also one of my sisters best friends. So at first, I didn't really think about the prospect of dating her for that reason. Another reason I neglected the idea of a relationship is because she is still in high school, while I am a freshman at the local college, and her and I never really spoke that much. One thing led to another, and I asked her If she wanted to hang out. She said yes, and for the last month, I've been seeing her every weekend, but just on the weekends. In the meantime, we talk a lot on the internet, but never on the phone. The problem is, I'm starting to fall for this girl, and I'm having problems defining what we are. It seems as though she shares the same feelings, but I'm just not sure. And with her crazy schedule, I can really only see her like one day a week, and it's becoming difficult. We're not an official couple yet, and I'm not sure if I should pursue something serious with her considering she's going away to college. Also, I'm running out of time, as school ends in five months, and frankly, I'm kind of losing my mind over it all. How should I go about this?

[HistorianChick]

Talk to her. She may be thinking the same things!

You two may decide that you have something special, something worth trying, something amazing.

You're sitting in an exciting place... the beginning of something that could (quite possibly) be one of the best things that has ever happened to you. Talk to her! Tell her what you're thinking, ask what she's thinking, propose the next step of defining what you are. You're never going to know until you talk to her.

Good luck, Darlin! :)

[talaniman]

While I think talking is the way to go, moving to fast is not. You both have things going on right now, and the urge to be official is pretty strong. I think you should keep it slow, and have fun getting to know each other, and be patient. The only time limit you have is the one you put on it. To you personally, don't get so carried away with your feelings, that it clouds your decisions or impairs your from being objective, as I think your getting to emotionally invested to fast. That never is fun, my friend, and can lead to disaster. What's the rush??

[JBeaucaire]

All true. What's wrong with continuing to let things progress slowly, if at all? Friendship is a wonderful thing. A relationship that starts there, even stays there awhile, has much more likelihood of being something more/real later.

And you're supposed to think about things like this, but driving yourself nuts simply means you don't have enough information yet to make a solid choice and it's frustrating you. Flip that coin over, you don't have enough info to make solid choice, so you don't. You just keep the train moving along, nice and slow, no stress, no strain.

[kp2171]

Enjoy the relationship for what it is and don't lose your mind over it.

Most young loves and relationships are "learning" experiences... you and she are still growing and learning and figuring out life.

That doesn't mean don't fall for her... just means don't be angry of it falls apart.

Relationship are a lot like other things you learn to do in life... it takes time and practice to get it "right"...

I've loved and lost some great women in my life. Sometimes it hurt like hell. Most of the time it was worth it. So...

Don't overanalyze and don't make it more than it is.

You like her. Maybe you like her large. OK.

Figure it out. If you try to make it work and it doesn't, that's OK. It's the next step toward the next right relationship.

Most people, if they just were able to get out of their own way, would have a better time. Not every relationship needs to be all or nothing... you like her. Fine.