[HurtingALot]

You know what else strikes me in what you are saying (Sneeze)... we gave so much and don't have any regrets... They sure as hell can't say the same. Good luck to them... What a huge loss for THEM... Got to move on to what we DESERVE! Better!

[Romefalls19]

What made me the most angry, was these two never hung out without me... And this was my "bestfriend" of 9 years. So technically in a month, I lost 2 best friends.. Not too shabby... But technically I also haven't told her I'm cutting her off ha ha... I just don't see how someone can be your best friend, and be there for you when you need them the most... but also making plans to hang out with an ex, especially after just telling me "I have always wondered what it would be like to be with you. I think we would be great together"... ugh.. women(no offense)

[HistorianChick]

But see guys, it's a HUGE loss for THEM!

They lost the best thing they've ever had... or will have... and they don't even know it. But we do.

And we're stronger for it. :)

[HurtingALot]

I'm sorry... but I am of the opinion that you have to choose. I couldn't be friends with his friends... (ha! Lucky he only has 2! And they aren't all that fantastic! )

I definitely lean on my friends a lot... and they are mine. On my team... my own cheering section. There are no in-betweens IMO.

[HurtingALot]

But see guys, its a HUGE loss for THEM!

They lost the best thing they've ever had... or will have... and they don't even know it. But we do.

And we're stronger for it. :)

THIS IS SO TRUE! Amazing...

[Romefalls19]

Yup, and obviously she chose her side.. So eventually she will get the point when I don't answer her calls or respond to her texts... I'm going to just avoid the fake apologies from her and listening to her "reasons" for it... No drama, I don't need it.. I got real friends who have chose their side, and that's my side...

I know myspace is frowned upon on here, but what struck me as odd was now all of a sudden my ex is on my "bestfriends" top friends list.. I was like you have got to be kidding.. Should I delete my friend as well so I don't have to see my e's pic?

[HurtingALot]

That's what I did. Severed all ties. I just don't want to know anything. All I was hearing and seeing in pics is that he is miserable. But it still hurt. Not worth it. I cut all the ties... I just don't want to know anything, unless and until it's from him directly. That's what I had to do for me and for my own recovery (and mind you... I am not recovered... YET!! But I'm on my way! )

[Romefalls19]

So you think I should delete my "bestfriend" off my myspace? Or what should I do? Lol.. I just need advice on how to handle it

[HistorianChick]

Yeah Rome, I'd rip that band aid off, sever all the ties.

(Not sure where the whole "rip the band aid off" analogy fits in, but for some reason the whole quick, fast, deliberate, LOTS OF PAIN, ouch, seemed to fit deleting the myspace friend... it hurts like heck when you do it, but the pain will go away... )

[Delow84]

Defintatly agree, I did the whole myspace/facebook thing, but have not been on for awhile. I deleted numbers, emails, changed a lot of stuff. I tell friends or family that I don't need to hear about every 'sighting' etc. If she wants to contact me, and its important enough she will find a way. Other then that I don't need any extra pushes to think about her.

Although I do feel a little hipocritical, and guilty. I still have ONE picture on my cell phone that I pop out and look at every blue moon. It's prob the only picture of her where I can see who I fell in love with, not who she turned out to be. Meh.

[Robert7x]

I had my friend change password on both of my Facebook and myspace pages... I don't want to go to those pages at all or see anything about her...

Those websites never meant any good anyway...