[HistorianChick]

Have you tried chamomile or mint tea before bed? I've found that sometimes after I've had a particularly stressful day at work (or drank a TON of caffeine throughout the day), a nice cup o' tea relaxes me and puts me out.

I know that your body is still going through the withdrawal process and that it's a different situation than my stressful days, but you might try it. Or, a nice hot bath before bed? Maybe with a little bit of lavender?

Just trying to help you out a tad... Sorry your day sucks, justme! But remember, when your day sucks, it will get better soon! :)

[justme005]

Thank you... I will try some tea tonight... it's a negative on the bath, though I wish I could... dorms only have showers and if they had baths... I wouldn't go in them! Haha.

Thanks a ton :)

[Wondergirl]

Establish a bedtime routine. (I know in a dorm that doesn't always work, but try it for a week.) Take a warm shower, put on clean jammies or nightie, read a chapter in a novel while drinking hot chocolate or decaf tea, then slip into bed that maybe was preheated with an electric blanket.

[justme005]

Ohh sounds sooo... delightful :)

I went to the AA meeting... it was weird... I didn't like it... all these weird people in one place. Scary. I don't want to be like them.

Day 4. sober. Holla.

[HistorianChick]

How come you "don't want to be like them?" What exactly don't you want to be "like?" What were the attendees like?

Day 4! You're doing it, Hon! You're conquering it! :D

[talaniman]

ohh sounds sooo... delightful :)

i went to the AA meeting... it was weird ... i didnt like it... all these weird ppl in one place. scary. i dont wanna be like them.

day 4. sober. holla.

They have exactly what you want, sobriety. Hang in there, and find out how they got that sobriety.

[justme005]

Ill try... but I feel like I want to just sip on a nice beverage tonight... not to get drunk but just... because I want too... I miss it. I know the weekend is coming and I'm going to a superbowl party I wanted to stay sober till then.. but so much stuff has happened this week.. I just want to dirnk a bit... ill write later to see what happens... if I don't finish my hw I won't drink and I don't get done class till 930 tonight.

I have to hang in there... I just... feel like its been sooo long. We shall see.

[HistorianChick]

Oh Darlin, don't... please.

One drink isn't going to be enough.

Do this for yourself... you can say no. You're stronger than your cravings.

Why not buy yourself some Godiva chocolate or a huge cup of coffee... something, anything. Or... buy yourself something tangible. Something that you can say that you bought when you were battling this addiction. Some little trinket or fufu thing...

Justme - YOU CAN DO THIS!!

[peggyhill]

You have to fight that feeling. I think it might be best for you to avoid the superbowl party if you know you won't be able to refuse the drinks. Or you could let your friends know you quit and tell them to please not offer you drinks. If they ask why, just say "health reasons".

I think you should give AA another try. Why did the people seem weird to you? Were there any your age? I would see if you can get in a counseling program at the school. You could also ask the person who runs that AA group to help you find a mentor close to your age. It's easier to relate and talk that way. Remember, those people have attained sobriety. Even if they seem weird, they might have some wonderful advice for you. I would go to at least one more meeting and ask for a mentor.

[J_9]

I know you want just one drink. Just ONE. I know, I am battling an addiction myself. Cigarettes. You know, nicotine addiction is just as hard to break as alcohol addiction.

I can tell you that if you do take that one drink, it won't be enough. You will want another, then another. I tell you this as I sit here twiddling my lighter just wanting to light up.

But you can do this. I know you can.

I know the folks at AA can be a little frightening sometimes, but remember, some of them are mothers, fathers, doctors, lawyers. They have all been where you are now and they all are now where you want to be.

If you aren't comfortable with the one you went to, find another in your area. They are all over the place, but tend to be on the QT because many people don't want others to know they are addicted and going to meetings. Try local churches, many churches have meetings.

Once you find one you like you will need a sponsor. A sponsor is the person you call when you feel you need a drink, or when you are just having a hard time. Sponsors are there for you day and night to help you battle the addiction and embrace sobriety.

[peggyhill]

Hey, good for you for trying to quit smoking! I know it sucks. Right now I'm been nicotine free for about 6 months. It gets way easier after the first month or so, at least for me. Good luck!

[justme005]

Thanks J9... good luck with your cigg addiction. I'm sure you can do it too! I know I should... nt go out tonight... I really hope no one calls me... maybe I just won't answer.. you no? The AA meeting I went to was at a church near my college... they were all older and I got there a little late and was so scared to walk in.. But my friend went w. me so we sat al the way in the back and people kept looking at me funny and talking about God and the 12 steps... I guess I have to look into something else... UGHH..! Drinking wouldn't be such a problem if it weren't for the stupid black outs and not remembering... it used to be fun. Ohh well I am off to rehearsal we'll see what happens when I get out at 9:30... maybe ill stick to finishing up some hw... thanks for these post everyone... your really keeping me thinking and staying on top of this.

[justme005]

OKKKK so you convinced me... I stayed in tonight... HAA. Yes now I'm 5 daysss soberrr. Word :)

[HistorianChick]

Boo-YA! 5 Days! You da man! (or, woman... lol)

You said "off to rehearsal"... what rehearsal? Drama? I've done professional and community theatre... LOVE IT!

[justme005]

Nahh I play the trumpet so I was at orchestra rehearsal.. I also play some piano and I love playing guitar!

[HistorianChick]

I've played piano for, oh golly, bucus of years... wow... I feel old now... LOL!

18 years. Wow.

I play flute and piccolo, too. Got to love music! :)

[peggyhill]

Hey, girl good for you for hanging in there! Sounds like you have lots of musical talent. That's awesome!

[justme005]

I'm drunk :(

[justme005]

And high now...

[justme005]

I blew it... oh my god...