[cincylady]

Hi:
I am a 33 year old female. I am a pack a day smoker (sometimes a little more).
Now, I must explain that I have been under a lot of stress lately, and have made a couple of bad decisions. I rarely drink, so when I do sometimes it hits me harder than I would hope for it to. I am now aware of my stupidity, and will NOT repeat my actions.

Okay, so here's the story. On November 10th I had too much to drink, and spent the night at a man's house (a friend of a friend). I distinctly remember saying no to intercourse, but can't be 100% sure of whether I eventually gave in, because I had way too much to drink, so don't remember clearly. Yes, I am now sickened by this. And, it is not a date rape type incident, because I drank of my own free will etc.

After that I had my period on Nov. 22, then on Dec.15 (both right on schedule). I have been somewhat regular in the past couple years, but used to have very irregular periods.
After that I missed my next period which should have been on 1/6(should have been about 23 days later).
On Jan/12, I did basically the same thing AGAIN. I once again, don't remember if I had intercourse or not, but I truly don't think I did (it didn't feel like I did, if that makes sense).

Prior to these 2 incidents, it had been 2 years since the last time I had intercourse.

On Jan 20th I had a little bit of brown spotting, then very light pink spotting for 2 days.

And, yes I know the obvious thing would be to ask him if we had intercourse, but I am simply too embarrassed to admit I can't remember.

In your opinion, does this sound like I am pregnant? I realize I am asking you to be clairvoyant, but at this point, any opinion would be greatly appreciated.
I have no other symptoms.

I realize the only way to know for sure, is a pregnancy test, but I am hoping to get your opinions on the likelihood of pregnancy, based on the info I've given. I don't mind if you use your crystal ball :) or, maybe I just needed to tell my story to someone to get it off my chest.

It is VERY difficult for me to take a pregnancy test, because I currently don't have a car, and my Mother drives me to the store, and I do not want to talk to her about this yet, am hoping I am just being paranoid. Obviously, if a little more time passes and this has not resolved itself, I will have to confront the issue. I have read that stress can also affect periods, so I have been hoping that may be the cause of these strange issues.

Thank you so much

[tickle]

Well, cincylady, I don't have a crystal ball and I can't tell you if you are pregnant or not. You haven't said anything about the character of this chap whose house you stayed in, but it bears the question 'what was the general purpose of you going to his house and if you were drunk, he obviously took you there for some purpose, or was it just that is a nice guy and wanted you to sleep it off?". Did you wake up nude?

You had better get to the bottom of this now and ask him, hoping he will tell the truth and then you can go to plan B.

[ordinaryguy]

It may seem to you that whether you're pregnant or not is the biggest question before you, but I don't think so.

A far more important question is why you have TWICE IN TWO MONTHS gotten so drunk you put yourself in a compromising position with men you hardly know, and then can't remember whether you had sex or not. People don't usually make exactly the same huge and dangerous mistake TWICE, and in such a short period, unless they're trying to teach themselves a really big lesson that they've been putting off learning for a long time.

So what's the big lesson you're trying to teach yourself here? No matter how the pregnancy test turns out when you finally get around to taking it, you have some serious matters to attend to.

[cincylady]

Thanks for the reply.
As I stated in my original post. I have already thought long and hard about my mistakes, and what brought them on. I will not be repeating those actions again. Believe me, I don't need anyone to point out the error of my ways, as I have already seen them. There are many issues underlying my need to "distract" myself with a wild night of drinking. I am not a drinker, and never have been, so I unfortunately what began as a night of cocktails and fun to get my mind of problems, turned into a night of drunken stupidity.
Thanks anyway for the reply.

[cincylady]

Well, cincylady, I dont have a crystal ball and I can't tell you if you are pregnant or not. You havent said anything about the character of this chap whose house you stayed in, but it bears the question 'what was the general purpose of you going to his house and if you were drunk, he obviously took you there for some purpose, or was it just that is a nice guy and wanted you to sleep it off?". Did you wake up nude?

You had better get to the bottom of this now and ask him, hoping he will tell the truth and then you can go to plan B.

Hi:
Thanks for your reply.
He invited me over, because I was not going to drive home in the condition I was in.
He is a very nice guy, who my friend has known since grade school.
The first time, back in November I was nude when I awoke. The way I remember it, there was "messing around", but not intercourse.
The most recent time, I had on everything but my jeans when I awoke.
Anyway, I realize what I asked of you was ridiculous. There is no way to know, until I test. I was just hoping that there was some kind of statistical answer that would ease my mind in the mean time, lol.
Thanks again :(

[tickle]

cincylady, sorry for shooting first and asking questions later. You obviously know what you are doing, but there are no silver bulletins so you are going to have to wing it. Just get it done and talk to the guy, then it will be behind you. Good luck and hope you aren't pregnant.

[cincylady]

cincylady, sorry for shooting first and asking questions later. You obviously know what you are doing, but there are no silver bulletins so you are going to have to wing it. Just get it done and talk to the guy, then it will be behind you. good luck and hope you arent pregnant.

Thank you for understanding.

I just discovered a possible symptom of something.
My outer vagina is a little bit swollen, maybe that's not the right word, maybe I should say enlarged. Not in an irritated way, and there is no pain or redness. Could this be a sign of impending period? I am honestly not sure if this happens to me in normal months, since I have never been so vigilant of symptoms before.
Thanks again

[JoeCanada76]

You need to also think about the possibility of a sexually transmitted disease as well you know.

Yes, it is possible your pregnant and you need to get a pregnancy test. The earlier you find out the better for you and your health.

Also if you do not know if you had intercourse or not. You need a complete exam and blood work and get tested for various things. Not trying to freak you out but you need to be aware of what you need to do.

Best wishes.

Joe

[cincylady]

Thank you for your reply. You are absolutely right, I have many worries to consider due to my stupidity. Believe me, I will address them appropriately, as soon as I get over this initial hurdle.

Okay, one final question to all of you.
Since it has been since November since the first incident, and I have since had no syptoms, and 2 periods, am I safe to assume it is highly unlikely that I am pregnant as a result of that first encounter?
So, if I am, it would most likely be from the second encounter? Just your opinion, I know, once again, there is no way of knowing.

Thanks again, and mostly thanks for lending an ear in my time or worry :(