[funkygirl613]

Hi um there is this guy who really likes me but always asks about my sexuality and stuff.he always asked me to wear a low cut shirt to c my boobs! Its really gross and weird,I mean,I'm only 12! Also,he's dating another girl? What shood I say to him to make him stop?:confused:

[ooonikki02ooo]

Justtell him that what he is doing is considered sexual harassment and if he continues you will press charges, also let your parents know what's going on, maybe they can contact the boys parents and inform them that if he continues to harass you legal action could be taken

[wolfcandy2]

Tell your parents what he is doing and then tell his parents what he is doing,maybe that's the only way to stop it before it goes too far

[funkygirl613]

OK,thanks guys! If he tells me that again,ill contact his parent.thnx again!

[wolfcandy2]

Anytime sweetie... here to help

[friend4u178]

How old is this guy?

[HistorianChick]

Darlin, you're twelve. You're too young to start dressing sexy for a boy.

If any boy asks you to do something that you're not comfortable doing, he is not worth it. Anything... if you're not comfortable eating spaghetti and he tries to force you to, DON'T! :) You realize I'm joking with that one, but the principle is there, Hon.

At your age, if you set a precedent to do things because a boy wants you to, you're going to find yourself as a young adult in a place that you don't want to be.

A boy should never make you do anything that you are not comfortable doing. Period.

Learn to say, "Umm, no. I don't want to do that. Thanks anyways!"

It's the boys that respect your opinions and feelings that are worth keeping. Find one of them :) They are SOOO worth it!

[peggyhill]

Tell your parents. They can contact his parents, or the police depending on his age. Don't let him talk to you like that. The next time he does it, just walk away and ignore him, and tell someone. At your age, I think low-cut shirts aren't appropriate anyway. If you wear something, it should be because YOU like it, not to look good for some guy. Don't ever let a guy pressure you into anything at all that makes you uncomfortable. Don't be afraid to speak up.

Hope this helps!

[ScottGem]

if you're not comfortable eating spaghetti and he tries to force you to, DON'T! :) You realize I'm joking with that one, but the principle is there, Hon.

Um, that's not such a joke. Oregano and marijuana are not very dissimilar in appearance. I knew someone who put marijuana in the spaghetti sauce in the hopes of loosening up his girl friend. ;)

[HistorianChick]

Um, that's not such a joke. Oregano and marijuana are not very dissimilar in appearance. I knew someone who put marijuana in the spaghetti sauce in the hopes of loosening up his girl friend. ;)

LOL! Wow...

Ok...

Well, then Darlin, NEVER eat spaghetti on the first date! (Finally! A reason why not to partake in the first date blooper-fest of "to twirl or not to twirl!" Thanks, ScottG!)

[TrueFaith]

Ok This guy is young and he is going about this all wrong.

If he upsets you by this. Talk to the teachers or that. If it bothers you so much. Other than that just ignore him. There is so much stuff going on in the school grounds. People could be charged with Raciesum Sexual harrament all that crap.

But in the end its just school and your kids.

If he upsets you tell him to go away. Or give him a good hit.
If it goes on tell a teacher or you mom

No need for police or any crazy stuff like that :)

This thing happens

[peggyhill]

She never told us how old he is. I know some schools where the middle school and high school are in the same building. For all we know, this could be an 18 year old. How do you know it's happening in school anyway? This could be at a youth center, boys and girls club, playground, etc.

I don't understand why you disagreed with me for telling the girl to tell her PARENTS. I said the parents could decide the course of action. I said they could decide to either tell his folks or contact the police "based on his age". Please read more carefully. I didn't say they should call the cops on another 12 year old. My neighbor's daughter was being harassed by a 17 year old on the playground. It started with comments about breasts and such. It then progressed to the guy asking the 13 year old to perform oral sex on him. He was recorded on the cell phone asking this and the police were involved.

If this is a kid her age, then no the police obviously don't need to be involved about some comments. But we have no way of knowing how old he is or if it is even happening at school. That is why I advised her to tell her parents, who can then make a wise decision about who to involve based on the age/circumstances. If an 18 year old was making comments about a 12 year old's breasts, then I think the police should be made aware. That is why I even mentioned it, since we don't know how old he is. :) Hope that clears it up,

[peggyhill]

How old is this boy? Is he someone at school or elsewhere? Is he close to the same age as the other girl he is dating?

[TrueFaith]

School is painful for some just as life is.

I agree with the respect a 100%
Some of them do need a good slap. To get there respect back. But you get kids of 12 on the internet looking at stuff they shouldn't be looking at going into school going crazy.
Very different than our days at school.

You make good points and ill agree with them
My advice is to tell the teacher or ask him nicely if that fails his parents or hers.
But I doubt it will go that far

[peggyhill]

Ok This guy is young and he is going about this all wrong.

if he upsets you by this. talk to the teachers or that. if it bothers you so much. other than that just ignore him. there is so much stuff going on in the school grounds. people could be charged with Raciesum Sexual harrament all that crap.

but in the end its just school and your kids.

If he upsets ya tell him to go away. or give him a good hit.
if it goes on tell a teacher or ya mom

no need for police or any crazy stuff like that :)

this thing happens

#1. We don't know how old he is.
#2. Advising a child to hit is particularly bad advice. I know of many middle schools who don't hesitate to call police if it gets physical. If we assume he is someone at school, if she hits him, she is the one who will most likely get in trouble. We had a case at a local middle school were the police took a girl to juvenile hall because she broke a boy's nose. I'm sure she had a reason to get ticked off at him. She probably had no idea she would actually break his nose when she hit him. It didn't matter. She is the one sitting in juvie, not the boy who bothered her.
#3. I'm confused by the "it's just school and your kids" Are you saying that it's just kid stuff? It may be, but that doesn't make it any less wrong or hurtful to this girl. I've seen girls who cry and beg to stay home from school because boys won't quit teasing them about their breasts that they are starting to develop. I saw a 12 year old who tried to commit suicide because boys were calling her a 'slut' and teasing her about her breasts. I'm sure the boys had no idea how much it hurt her. It's never to early to learn how to respect the opposite sex.

I agree with the part about telling a teacher IF it's happening at school.

[peggyhill]

Ok, I guess I was typing when you were typing, lol. I understand what you're saying

[TrueFaith]

:)

[funkygirl613]

Thanks everyone! Oh and when heasked me I said,no,u perv! It actually worked! And thanks so much again!

[peggyhill]

That is really great! I'm glad he is leaving you alone. If he bothers you again, don't be afraid to tell your folks or a teacher, if it's happening at school. I'm going to guess this is a guy in your class?

[TrueFaith]

Good girl ;)

Proud of you