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thegirlishurting · Jan 27, 2008, 02:38 AM

Im in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. We see each other like every other month. Hes sweet and charming and we know each other very well and take that into account whenever we are making a big decision.

He was in a near-death accident two months ago and since then things were different. He became grumpy and angry all the time, saying not only to me but with everyone. Probably caused by the excruciating pain he's going through every morning. Apart from that, he's having tough financial, family and work problems right now. He seldom call/email/text now.

I tried to bring back his old self by sending emails of sweet nothings or by texting him corny jokes like we used to but that only drove him to decide on breaking up with me. He said that he's going through a lot of pressure and he can't deal with me right now and its driving him insane.

I understand what he's going through but what hurts me more is that he did this a year before and Im seeing a pattern.

I don't know what to do. I love him a lot but I don't want to be in a position of waiting for him to come back again when he calls it quits. What if he doesn't come back? :(

raggablue · Jan 27, 2008, 09:10 AM

You said he did the same thing a year before? Well how did you deal with that? What I would do is go and see him, because he lves far away it'll show him how much you care. Go see him and tend to his wounds, he might change his mind

s_cianci · Jan 27, 2008, 09:13 AM

Then you move on with your own life and forget about him. In fact, start doing that right now, without even waiting for him to come back. You can't make the rest of your life dependent on his whim. Sometimes a traumatic experience changes people, for better or worse. You may just have to cut your loss and move on.

raggablue · Jan 27, 2008, 09:21 AM

Give her a chance, she still loves him and I think she should try one more time

talaniman · Jan 27, 2008, 10:59 AM

Give him what he wants. You have a right to be happy and if he doesn't want to be a part of it, that's his luck. He knows how you feel and he still wants to end it so let him. Don't wait on maybe.

friend4u178 · Jan 27, 2008, 04:37 PM

He seems to have made his choice , don't push too much as he will just pull away more. Move on and start to live your life for you.

wolfcandy2 · Jan 27, 2008, 04:38 PM

I agree get on with your life and have fun at it... he made his choice

thegirlishurting · Jan 29, 2008, 12:58 AM

Thanks guys for your inputs... I felt he really wanted out so what to do right?

Its just so sad how things were so sweet and perfect then suddenly, all dies down.

Im just afraid that one day he will be knocking at my door and he'll walk all over me again because he knows how much I love him---like last year.

Thanks again to all of you.