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jaredbear · Jan 23, 2008, 06:17 PM

Hello,
I write because I recently called my wedding off set for 6 months from now. I feel our relationship has deminished, I don't feel like we are going to be together too much longer I have been dating this girl since high school 6 years ago. I am 23 she is 25.
Recently last year I have had 3 different people in my family go through a divorce including my dad and brother( only married 1 year). Everyone told me that it matters what I feel not how they ended up but I am scared. So I ask now what I should do I don't feel for this woman like I used, we no longer have sex but 1 a week ( if I'm lucky). It just feels to me like we should part and try something over PLEASE HELP

progunr · Jan 23, 2008, 06:37 PM

Relationships are hard. All I can offer is this. You are both young. If you feel this way now, before you are married, why even consider going forward?
You need to be honest with each other, and communicate. Perhaps if you can both get all your concerns and problems out in the open, and discuss them, then you can make an informed decision as to how to proceed.
Good luck to you both!

Kindahl22 · Jan 24, 2008, 09:00 AM

I had the same feeling before I got married. I was scared and not sure if I had experienced enough. So my now husband and I went to relationship counseling and it helped us realize how much we truly loved and cared for each other.

Alostwife · Jan 24, 2008, 02:16 PM

Originally Posted by jaredbear

Hello,
I write because I recently called my wedding off set for 6 months from now. I feel our relationship has deminished, i dont feel like we are going to be together to much longer i have been dating this girl since high school 6 years ago. i am 23 she is 25.
Recently last year I have had 3 different people in my family go through a divorce including my dad and brother( only married 1 year). Everyone told me that it matters what i feel not how they ended up but i am scared. So I ask now what i should do i dont feel for this woman like i used, we no longer have sex but 1 a week ( if im lucky). it just feels to me like we should part and try something over PLEASE HELP

I am 23 and got married a couple of months ago to my boyfriend of seven years. I too had the same feelings going into it. All I can tell you is if I were to do it again, I would wait. We disagree a lot and I think we both know we want other things. If you feel this way now look at it as a gift. You could be ten years into a marriage with kids and have to deal with this. Your young and could find someone you really click with. Don't put yourself into a situation where you are stuck. I am and it makes me a bad person. Good luck.

talaniman · Jan 24, 2008, 05:33 PM

6 years is a long time to be together, and not be able to work out your issues. You already sound as if you have a foot out the door. Face it you both have grown, and changed since high school and maybe a break is in order. How does she feel?