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kali1972 · Jan 23, 2008, 01:40 PM

The judge told me that I either signed my rights up or get my rights terminated because I was married to a very abusive man and the time I finally woke up and got divorced it was to late. I signed my rights up and now I want to reverse it so I can get my son back. It will be a year on February 2 and I feel like I was discrimated from the get go of the case. The judge was the judge that did my case when I was a child and the social worker that was there her supervisor was my social worker when I was a child. The attorney that rep my sons father was my parents attorney when I was a child. The cso (Court service officer) was the same one when I was a child and I am now 35. Is there anyway that I can reverse this discion and fight for my son?

Synnen · Jan 23, 2008, 01:45 PM

Wait... you reversed the decision to relinquish, and now you want to reverse THAT decision?

Or you relinquished and you just want to un-relinquish?

How long has it been since this happened? What kind of circumstances are we talking about here?

We need more info to help you, hon.

ScottGem · Jan 23, 2008, 01:46 PM

Relinquishing rights is a serious business. It sounds like a judge refused to allow you to relinquish. If you were allowed to relinquish, what were the circumstances?

Fr_Chuck · Jan 23, 2008, 02:04 PM

I read it that they gave up their rights, children was taken away, and they want the children back.

kali1972 · Jan 24, 2008, 09:59 AM

Originally Posted by Synnen

Wait....you reversed the decision to relinquish, and now you want to reverse THAT decision?

Or you relinquished and you just want to un-relinquish?

How long has it been since this happened? What kind of circumstances are we talking about here?

We need more info to help you, hon.

The judge told me that I either signed my rights up or get my rights terminated because I was married to a very abusive man and the time I finally woke up and got divorced it was to late. I signed my rights up and now I want to reverse it so I can get my son back. It will be a year on February 2 and I feel like I was discrimated from the get go of the case. The judge was the judge that did my case when I was a child and the social worker that was there her supervisor was my social worker when I was a child. The attorney that rep my sons father was my parents attorney when I was a child. The cso (Court service officer) was the same one when I was a child and I am now 35. Is there anyway that I can reverse this discion and fight for my son?

JudyKayTee · Jan 24, 2008, 10:11 AM

Originally Posted by kali1972

the judge told me that i either signed my rights up or get my rights terminated because i was married to a very abusive man and the time i finally woke up and got divorced it was to late. i signed my rights up and now i want to reverse it so i can get my son back. it will be a year on feburary 2 and i feel like i was discrimated from the get go of the case. the judge was the judge that did my case when i was a child and the social worker that was there her supervisor was my social worker when i was a child. the attorney that rep my sons father was my parents attorney when i was a child. the cso (Court service officer) was the same one when i was a child and i am now 35. is there anyway that i can reverse this discion and fight for my son?

Reposting the same post when you are asked for more info in order to assist you is not helpful - the info which is needed is simply not here.

That being said - you weren't discriminated against if you signed away your rights. You signed. You were not terminated; you signed.

Even if you hadn't signed I don't see that the cast of characters takes away from the fact that your child was in an abusive situation, which you admit.

These things are very hard to reverse and the Court will take a look at the fact that your son was in an abusive situation, you did nothing and chose to stay with the man even though it meant surrendering your child, now the marriage is over and you want the child back - ? Not looking good for you.

Synnen · Jan 24, 2008, 10:27 AM

In her defense, she changed the original post, not just posted the original post twice.

You're going to need a lawyer, a VERY good one.

It takes a LOT for relinquishment of rights to happen. Where is the child now? How old? What are YOUR current circumstances?

Generally, a child is placed in foster care while you are given a chance to get your act together---did this happen first? Or was that step skipped? If so--why? Was your CHILD abused as well?

There's a LOT of information that we'd still need---but in the end, the answer is going to be the same: Get a good lawyer. Get a VERY good lawyer. While you may or may not be able to afford it, there are ways to work around that. Some lawyers will allow payment plans, some are willing to work pro bono and some may be willing to work at a discounted rate.

ScottGem · Jan 24, 2008, 10:58 AM

Synnen is correct, you edited your original post which is NOT a good idea. While you did add information, you don't answer all the questions asked.

From what you are saying it sounds like you put your son into danger by maintaining a relationship with an abusive partner. This caused the judge to give you such a choice. Without knowing what your circumstances are now and where the child is now, we can't even begin to know what your chances are. But they start as very poor since relinquishing rights is rarely overturned.

JudyKayTee · Jan 24, 2008, 01:20 PM

Originally Posted by Synnen

In her defense, she changed the original post, not just posted the original post twice.

You're going to need a lawyer, a VERY good one.

It takes a LOT for relinquishment of rights to happen. Where is the child now? How old? What are YOUR current circumstances?

Generally, a child is placed in foster care while you are given a chance to get your act together---did this happen first? Or was that step skipped? If so--why? Was your CHILD abused as well?

There's a LOT of information that we'd still need---but in the end, the answer is going to be the same: Get a good lawyer. Get a VERY good lawyer. While you may or may not be able to afford it, there are ways to work around that. Some lawyers will allow payment plans, some are willing to work pro bono and some may be willing to work at a discounted rate.

Hmm - unless something got amended (or I need more rest) the post is exactly the same.

A lot also depends on the State - this wasn't a temporary order of custody, this was a relinquishment and usually the wording lets you know it's forever. The Courts have long taken the position that it is not good for a child to be shuttled back and forth, thus, forever.

How much contact have you had with the child since you relinquished? Was contact allowed by the Court?

kali1972 · Jan 25, 2008, 02:20 PM

I haven't seen my son since February 9 2007. I am now 7 months pregnant and I have been remarried to a wonderful man and I just want to get my son back

Synnen · Jan 25, 2008, 02:27 PM

Get a lawyer.

A lot depends on what happened to your son after relinquishment.

If he is still in the foster care system, you might have a chance. A slim chance, but a chance. Severing parental rights is NOT something that is done often, or lightly, so what happened must have been pretty bad, hon, for them to do that. For example--I know a mother who was able to get her children back because her rights weren't severed, after she served her time in jail for abusing them to the point of putting them in the hospital.

If he has since been adopted---you probably have NO chance of getting him back. I don't want to be cruel here, I just want to point out the worst case scenario here.