[sweetsorrow]

Hi Everyone! :) it's been awhile since I last posted so firstly I hope everyone had a good christmas and new years!

All right so, I have a little bit of a dilemma, I'm torn between 2 outcomes and either way 1 of us isn't going to be happy and will struggle. The situation is that I'm currently renting a place with my boyfriend of 2 yrs, everything is fine aside from the fact that everyday he seems to become more and more stressed out about money. Which in turn is putting tension between us and we have started getting into fights about it.

Our lease is almost up and this is where the problem lies. You see he wants to go back to his parents house, which is fair enough since he doesn't have to worry about a lot of financial things (like paying rent, bills, food etc.) there. So it will take a lot of stress off him. But if he does that then I have nowhere to go. I can't go home (id rather not mention why) and I'm only working casual so I can't afford to live by myself (I've been trying to find full time work with no luck so far). There is no one else that I can move in with and none of my friends are in the right situation to move out right now. In other words I would be pretty much screwed without him. (you know that whole saying 1 person can never live as cheap as 2? Lol)

He said the decision is up to me, so the dilemma... do I tell him to stay and risk the stress getting to him and almost inevitably having it break us up, because we both know with the way its going that's where it will end up. Or do I tell him that he can go back to his parents and leave myself with nowhere to go? I don't mean for that to sound selfish, if it does. I love my boyfriend and I don't want us to end over something petty that could be avoided with him going back. But I guess at the same time I don't want to be alone and struggling. See what I mean? Either way one of us will have a hard time, I don't know which to chose and I really need some guidance. I just want both of us to be happy but I'm unsure of how to do that in this situation. I really need it at the moment so any help would be really appreciated.

Thanks for taking the time to read this, it must have been an eyeful :) and thanks in advance for any advice.

Keep Smiling

[friend4u178]

I would tell him everything you have just asked on here , surely if he loves you and realises your dilemma he wouldn't just leave you out in the cold so to speak.

[EuRa]

Dude. You are relying on him too much. You aren't as stuck as you think you are:

-- You have part time work now, but if you want a full time job, trust me it's out there. Are your expectations too high? Lower them. Or:

-- Go to craigslist and search for rooms/apartments to share. My girlfriend did that, found 5 good places in her area, 2 of which were under 300 bucks.

Stop relying on your man to keep you afloat. That's also putting stress on the relationship without you even knowing it. If my GF said that to me, or hinted it, even if only once, I'd be a little peeved.