[worried gf]

My boyfriend and I have been dating now for over 2 years. We are both in college at different schools. He is in New York while I am down south. He is in a frat at school and his brothers in the frat like to hire strippers sometimes. They always hire them for rush and he went to a strip club for his friends birthday. Strippers really bother me because my parents almost got a divorce over them. I have told him this and that I don't like it but he just tells me that he has to go but doesn't enjoy them. I do trust him but it makes me very uncomfortable. They are in the midst of rush right now and they have strippers coming tonight. I don't know how to handle it. Help!

[twinkiedooter]

He doesn't have to do anything he does not want to do. Sounds like he likes the stripper thing and gives the lame excuse he has to attend or has to go. Dump him and find someone else who doesn't like this kind of stuff. It can only lead to bigger, better things like prostitutes. Do you want this? No. Sounds like you are a nice young lady and he is not a nice young man. You can do much better, believe me.

[Romefalls19]

Actually he does have to go, being in a frat during rush is the point of being in a frat. Unless you have a legit family excuse, not attending rush because your girlfriend is feeling insecure is not a warranted excuse. You say you trust him, he said he doesn't want to go but does have to. He probably has a role in the rush. If he doesn't do anything with them then you shouldn't be worried. But immediately blaming the guy saying it's a lame excuse is not having the whole story. This is part of being in a frat, kind of like mixers around my area, the sorities throw these to introduce new people to each other in the frats

[raggablue]

Trust him this once, text him to say "i love you". If he messes up, dich him. If he doesn't then alls fine. Calm your nerves with a glass of red and a good movie.