[pyg]

I am an 18 year old girl, who hasn't had a single satisfying date thus far.
I can't seem to get interested in anyone new to further an acquaintance, and I can't tell if they're interested in me either. My crushes tend to be on good, intimate friends, but we're usually already too far into the friend-zone to become romantic interests. I feel like I'm going to be single for life! :confused:

What can I do to rev up my dating life, and well, be more date-able?

[Fr_Chuck]

Often it is the good friends that will make the better people to date.
If you are looking into a long term relastionship latter, being friends is one of the most important issues.

What are your standards for dating or your ideas of what a date or person you are dating should be like.

[ISneezeFunny]

First, write down what you're looking for in a person. And be honest... and somewhat reasonable. Then look back... have you dated someone within that list? Chances are, you haven't.

[pyg]

Often times, I can't tell if the dinner I'm having with a guy is a date or a purely platonic affair. Although I'm never bored because I genuinely think everyone's exciting, sometimes I feel like I'm babysitting - or that they think I'm their little sister.

My idea of a date would be one

Who is intelligent, funny and sexy (conventional good looks don't really matter or grab me, and most of the regular guy friends I have complain that I'm intimidatingly intelligent.)
Who obviously shows romantic/sexual interest in me (I need things to be obvious!)

And we, ideally, would do fun things, laugh a lot, and end with great conversation.

Am I being reasonable?

[450donn]

Maybe you are trying too hard. Lighten up on yourself. You are still young, and it is really too soon for long term relationships in your life. If you were 35 and asking this question then it might be time to start worrying. Be natural, yourself, and learn to relax more. Things will work out.

[ISneezeFunny]

Those things are pretty reasonable. This is a problem a lot of times... a guy asks a girl out to dinner. Girl isn't sure if it's a date. Guy doesn't want to admit whether it is. Neither party moves forward. Thus... relationship limbo. If you really like a guy... then you move it forward. Ask him out on a date. A real date. Some guys like it, some don't. But to be honest, I wouldn't mind if a girl asked me out to dinner once in a while.

[simoneaugie]

You are probably too smart for the guys you've dated so far. You will find the right guy. There are so many men, but only a few who are just right for you. Enjoy yourself and you will find each other.

[Jessie V]

I agree with many of the posts up there saying you have time. I'm 22 and have dated ever since I was able to and to be honest never really had a great date until my current relationship. I've dated the same types of guys over and over but never really thought of them as my "type" but then I ended up meeting a man who has a lot of the same interests as me. Makes me laugh and is not judgemental. I think you just need to do the dating thing because no one is perfect but if you date different types of guys then you can go into a new relationship saying I am not going to go for a guy like this or that. Then you're selection becomes fewer. And I agree friends are the best to date and if they are that good of a friend then it will not matter if the relationship ends.