[misse4eva]

I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now and things are a little rough between us. I'm in college now and he's working and we usually see each other twice a week but he will be attending college soon for the summer and that would make us far far away from each other... at first I thought that I can do long distance with him but now I'm starting to see that its hard... I want to give up but I know in my heart that I can't find someone like him ever. We have communication problems now... when he's mad its not like it used to be when we first started to go out now he just doesn't tell me why he's mad... its always "Baby i'm okay"... my parents don't know about him because my parents are really really strict and I'm waiting for the right time to tell them and I see that he's hurting inside because I meant his parents... My parents would control my relationship if they knew about my boyfriend and they won't understand... my parents would want me to concerntrate on school not boys and they won't allow me to date him AT ALL so if I tell them its over between me and my boyfriend but I tell my boyfriend that but he doesn't understand and says "so" but I'm scared... im 18 yrs old and my parents still control me... I'm stuck between what's right and what's wrong... I'm going behind my parents back but he's the only one in my life that makes me happy but every time I look at my mom it makes me sad because I'm lying to her... I done a lot with my boyfriend... he was my first kiss my first love my first when we had sex... telling my parents will disappoint them and I've disappointed them so much in the past I can't do it again... I can see that my boyfriend hates that we have to sneak around and now he gets mad at me easily for little things because he's frustrated I don't know if I should just end it with him and let him be stress free without me driving him crazy... I can't picture myself without him but I think I need to... I NEED ADVICE... should I let him go or try to work this out.

[oneguyinohio]

Better listen to the folks. That's always a good option when you need an excuse. You chose not to listen to them up to this point, and only now that you are having problems with the distance do you consider their wishes.

If it's real, distance won't matter, as you'd find a way to make it work. Seems like you might have left out some information about why you aren't happy with the boyfriend?

Same race? What's the secret from the parents about?. show them that you are still getting good grades if you do indeed want to continue with the guy... The parents just want you to do well.

[talaniman]

I think you need time to gow up a little more, and find out where your real loyalties lay. Don't know the deal with your b/f, but you do need time to figure yourself out, and do something to stop the guilt you feel about lying to your parents. If you can't figure how to deal with that issue, your relationship will suffer, that and the distance, is an up hill battle.

[HistorianChick]

Having been in a relationship in which I didn't tell my parents, I've felt the same guilt. Its not fun, and believe me, one day they WILL find out... it would be better if you told them yourself than them finding out from, oh, say, HIS mother (been there, done that, DEFINITELY not pretty). All this to say, you may feel you can't live without him... maybe you can't. But do something about what you can control. If not telling your parents bothers you, tell them. It will be worth it. And hey, maybe they'll have some kind of wisdom in this matter... they did raise you and love you more than anyone else! :) Good luck!